Hi My Friend,

This was an awful experience for me a while back~I was in the grocery store and bumped into a man who was 80yrs. old.  First too old for me except he seemed nice & lonely and asked if I wanted to have a seat in a small area the store has if you purchase food & want to enjoy your sandwich in the area.

We spoke & he gave me his number.  The girl in the customer service area which I know because I usually pick up my groceries in the store said he comes in a lot and was a very nice man.

I called him and we spoke for a while and decided to meet at a restaurant.  When I got there he said he wasn’t really hungry and he lived a few miles away & would I like to come by & talk. I also don’t like cheap people & I felt that from him.  Also, his house was filthy and a mess~

He lived in an area I was aware of and had close neighbors to his home. I didn’t see any harm so I went.

He told me he rented one of his rooms out & his wife passed 16 yrs. ago.  Then he asked if I wanted to watch a movie & I didn’t feel comfortable because he kept trying to hold my hand and touching my hair.  I told him I didn’t like my hair to be touched and was uncomfortable.  He asked if he could be honest and tell me something & I said sure.  I almost fell to the ground when he said he had been dating and not found anyone he was interested in but had an attraction to me which gave him an erection and I was disgusted.

I told him I made a mistake by going to his home and felt what he said was very disrespectful to me & I was repulsed.

He actually asked if we could get together again and I told him absolutely not.

Why do men do such things?  I know girls that sleep with men only because they felt an obligation because they paid for their meal or they thought the man had money and will sleep with them thinking they may get some type of security from the guy.

I have avoided all of these situations and feel I may be alone with my babies until the end of my life.

People have changed & most have no idea how to communicate or treat you like a lady.

Being old fashion, I want to be courted and respected.  I would not feel any type of obligation to sleep with a man because we went out.  I definitely don’t like being touched.

It takes a good 6 months or longer to really know someone you just met & I have no past boyfriends I would want to date again. Most may have passed because I have not seen them in so long.  Guess I am a loner and sometimes I feel I am on my way downhill instead of spending my golden years with someone.

I have one girlfriend I trust and we are so much alike.  She worked at the Sheriff’s Dept. and is disabled now.  We talk on the phone.  Besides writing to you and speaking with her on the phone I am basically a loner.  Also, my trust in people has come to a halt due to all the deception I have experienced.

Back to the dating scenario if a man tries to get emotionally involved on the first date I can only imagine what their past was like and don’t care to waste my time sharing my life.

I didn’t sleep well last night, for some reason I feel so disappointed in people these days. Too much deciet and intitlement is what I feel from people.

Maybe it’s me?

Have a Beautiful day!

Your Friend Shookie~