Hi Eric

I think it would help if you adjusted your expectations.

Her life is very busy and stressful atm because of her thesis. You said she shared that this has been impacting her mood. You also shared that things went well spending time together on her day off.

When one partner is less busy than the other it natural for the less busy partner to miss the busy partner. On the other hand, the busy partner doesn’t experience that because they are so busy with other things. It’s no one’s fault. That is just life sometimes.

You will probably have a great time when you spend time with her on her days off. You will naturally miss her when she’s busy. As she is so busy it will be important not to opt out of things she invites you to. If you want a relationship where your partner isn’t as busy, you will need to pursue a relationship with someone else.

I think the main concern is how your mental health is reacting to this situation. It’s putting a lot of stress on you. When you start vomiting because of anxiety, your body is at it’s limit.