Dear Tee,

Tomorrow is my first appointment…

Okay good, Be sure to update me.

Sure, and also, if you constantly feel the need to “improve” the person, pushing her to do this or that, she might feel she’s not good enough for you. She might feel criticized and judged, like she’s is with a strict parent, not an equal partner. So yes, more empathy and less control is key…

Yes you said so well

Good! So if she complains about something, first listen and empathize. Only then offer advice

Yes, that’s what I’m doing. With lot of communication even with my friends and teammates

Do what feels right to you.

That’s what I believe in Yes

Absolutely – if you feel you’re not ready for marriage, don’t do it. And yes, don’t settle for someone just because others are telling you it’s time to settle.

Yes I know when it’s time to settle.

Great! I am rooting for you!

Oh Thanks!

Well, you’ll see. You’ll need to spend some time together to see how she is in person. But don’t judge her by how tall she is or other physical features – her character and personality are much more important!

You’re right lowering/mute the critic inside me would be lot better.

And Today I had another therapy season.

She said I’m doing lot better than she expected 😌

Also I told her the things that I’m working on Empathy, compassion, Being Good enough for inner voice as well as treating child version of me with more love.etc

Yet she told me she feels like I still have rigid layer around my heart. I’m more sensitive but changing my root beliefs and believe and love myself in healthier will take some more time

And she gave me good example of window glass. What happens when you throw rock at the window glass? Not just that injure the people inside. Rigid things break easily. So let it at ease. Let it feel things let it be softer

She told me if you’re able to being kind with others it’s time to be kind with yourself too.

For that she suggested some Yoga and journaling but like in a way that I’m my own good friend she said it would also help for my compassion part as well

Also she said I still have to work on my root chakra little bit more. My sacral chakra looks already good. But still we’ll work on that and after that Solar plexus chakra which she said I will have put more focus on.