Anita,

But when I took the initiative and washed dishes, she guilt-tripped and humiliated me anyway, complaining that I was making too much noise when washing the dishes, or wasting water, or leaving dirt on the dishes, and now she has to wash and rinse them anyway… There was no Winning with my mother, a no-win ongoing situation.

Same here. My mother used to mock me I was holding the vacuum cleaner wrong way (should be both hands!) and that I was not precise with washing up. There was a time it made me cry (around 13-14yo) but then I just..got numb and got used to the mocking I guess. As you said: no winning!

It is 10.30 PM where I live. 1:30 PM where you live. Have a good day Anita 🙂