Hi Adam,

It is a harsh reality that at the end of the day this is her and what I envisioned she would be is a fantasy.

I’m devastated, I’m pretty sure she is talking to someone she met on the dating app if my detective work is right, I have my suspicions due to social media. It really hurts that she would do me like that if it is the case.

I feel for you. It’s hard to be abandoned like that, after all the loving things she told you, and all the love and support you gave her.

I’m not sure why I get attached like this but I don’t think its from my childhood. Maybe I need to speak to my psych about it.

Yes, please do talk to her about it. I have an idea why this is so painful for you, and it’s related to this what you said:

Have I been lied to about everything she said? She left me in the dark and it is gut wrenching if she has already moved on.

This seems like one of the core questions that’s troubling you. And maybe, just maybe, you unconsciously adopted a false belief that if she lied to you, it means you’re not worthy enough. Or something to that effect. If you’d like to, we can dig deeper into that. But my hunch is that there’s a hurt there, which is related to your core false belief (and a core wound), and that’s why it’s so very painful.

If I do hear from her I will definitely post her reply here for advice.

Okay, please do that.