Dear Blazkowich:

“By dropping the relationship like it is some baggage? Instead of letting me share the burden, she considered me or the relationship as one?”-

– from what you shared it is unfortunately true that you were an emotional baggage and a burden for her: maybe not from the beginning, but from one point on. She was busy with her exams (a real-life burden), her cat died (an emotional burden), and you were another emotional burden. She told you that she was “unable to handle the relationship“- it means that the relationship (meaning the hours of video calling between the two of you) was a problem for her (an extra burden), not a solution (a sharing of the burden).

She told you: “Her exact words before leaving me was that the fact that I am there caring for her is hurting her, and that she wants to be alone“- the relationship with you was hurting her, that is, the relationship was a part of the problem for her, not a part of the solution.

In general, when person A needs help, and person B does not only offer help, but insists on helping, chasing person A with offers of help.. it is person B who needs help more than person A.

What do you think?

anita