Dear Meatball:

I read your post earlier than I intended (not focused tonight, following a hard-working day, etc.), and will re-read and reply attentively and thoroughly tomorrow morning (in about  12 hours from now), but for now: reads to me that she can’t trust anyone, understandably, given her childhood- adolescence experience. She can’t trust anyone or anything. You, and maybe her ex in-laws are the.. least untrustworthy people in her life, so she keeps coming back to you and to them.

If you read this before I return to you, does what I expressed above make sense to you?

anita