Dear Paradoxy,

Tee, just go back and read how I want to be with my wife, cause you are misunderstanding me too many times now especially after expressing how much I want to be able to SERVE my wife.

I know what you have said – you have expressed your opinion of women (which mostly aligns with your parents’ opinion of women). You defended your parents’ suspicions of women from the Western hemisphere (“I was just telling her about the experiences they had with women from this side of the world”), who were exposed to the influence of “the modern society”.

In order to “prove” this prejudice about women, you listed various examples of women being gold-diggers and cheaters. You mentioned some woman juggling three men while seeking to rip of a rich Chinese guy, and also more evidence of such immoral women that your father regularly lets you know about in your daily phone calls.

You also said, and now you are repeating, that it is actually women’s fault that men have to stuff their emotions:

That is why there are a lot of cases where women leave their partners or look down on them when their partner reach a breaking point and starts crying or something.

You may not be aware of it but this ideology is quit common around the world and so men have no choice but to keep their emotions under control because if they cry or something, their partners tend to see it as weakness and inferiority as they expect their man to “hold down the fortress” and not “whine”.

So women force men to stuff down their emotions? Not perhaps your father and other men who tell you to “suck it up and be a man”?

And when you say “cry or something“, maybe “something” means when they become verbally and physically aggressive? So perhaps women leave their husbands not because they are sensitive and crying, but because they are aggressive and can’t control their anger?

I am not saying that the wife is not smart enough and needs the man’s guidance, but that the family should be following the father as he would be taking the responsibility of the leader that carries the foundation of the home while the mother keeps the home intact from the inside.

Without both of them, a home will not stay intact for long. Both partners are equal but they have their own roles to play in a family. A father cannot act as a mother and a mother cannot act as a father. They have their own set of responsibilities and skills and roles that are important when it comes to turning a house into a home.

Yes, what you are describing is a patriarchal system, in which the man is the head of the family, and men and women have strictly defined ROLES. It is the woman’s role to give birth and take care of the children and the household, while it is the man’s role to make all important decisions.

Some of those roles are natural, because men obviously cannot give birth. Also, it is ideal e.g. that the woman spends time with the baby when it is born, while the man goes to work and provides for the family. Also, men and women are different in physical strength and skills, so some of those roles are natural.

But some of the roles – such as making the man in charge of decision making – is an invented, imposed role. It stems from a false belief that men are smarter than women.

You exemplified the same belief many times when you said that it is normal for women to act stupidly and make stupid decisions. Also, when you found excuses for B’s inappropriate behavior by claiming that she is stupid and “operating on literally three brain cells”.

 you are misunderstanding me too many times now

I am not misunderstading you, Paradoxy. I know very well what you said and what your beliefs are. You expressed them many times, including now, in this latest post.

I am not saying good women do not exist, because I know that a lot of men found women that understood them emotionally but the reality is there are a lot of women who do not understand this.

You say you agree with me, but in the very next breath you come with an explanation why you are still right about women being gold diggers, cheaters, or even forcing men to suppress their emotions (which is one the most ridiculous claims I’ve heard).

You want to keep focusing on the “lot of women who do not understand this“, same as your father, who is quick to tell you about examples of immoral women in his daily phone calls with you.

So it seems you want to remain in this patriarchal system, which looks down on women and wants to keep them in their place, in their “role” (which is a subservient role that men have imposed on them).

Tee, just go back and read how I want to be with my wife, cause you are misunderstanding me too many times now especially after expressing how much I want to be able to SERVE my wife.

How can you serve your wife, if you believe you have to lead her and make decisions for her?