Dear Paradoxy,

You ignore half of the things I say and then try to accuse me of being misogynistic? You grab on to the information YOU want and then use it to make your point instead of understanding the information as a WHOLE

Actually I am looking at the bigger picture here – at everything you said, not only bits and pieces.

WHY ARE YOU DRAGGING FEMINISM INTO THIS? I am talking about B ONLY. ONLY HER. I am not talking about ALL women in general. I am speaking SPECIFICALLY about B.

Your experience with B cannot be observed separately from your view of women. They are intertwined. And it seems the fallout with B actually led you to confirm your bias against women, because this is what you said:

The experience I had with her was enough to make me hate women in general. I am safer alone.

 

Are you saying that entitled feminist women do not exist? Are you saying there are no stupid things that a lot of women do that is common between them?

I don’t know what you mean by entitled feminist women? And of course, there are many women who are cheating on their partner, or marry for financial reasons (perhaps more so in your part of the world, I wouldn’t know). However, you cannot make generalizations and accuse all women, or women in general, to be like that. It would be like saying that all men are alcoholics and beat their wives, because there are some who are like that.

Your parents brought you up with such a false generalization, which says that most women in the modern society are likely to be cheaters and gold diggers:

they don’t trust women in general because they have seen many ruined relationships with cheating and gold diggers and etc

You too accepted this generalization as the truth, so even though you don’t think that all women are immoral, you believe that good, honest women in the modern world are exceptions to the rule:

They have taught me that women in the modernized world, can have ulterior motives for loving you so I should have my guard up and should not be vulnerable around a woman. But I am wise enough to realize that though they meant their words to apply to all modern woman, there will always be exceptions to their belief and I should become wise enough to distinguish a proper woman from gold diggers and etc.

I have seen how a lot of women behave and it is way too similar and common behavior so I naturally started expecting them from every girl. That doesn’t mean I haven’t considered women who could be exceptions.

So the rule, i.e. the false belief that you adopted, is that most women in the modern world are immoral and not “wife material”.

This is the misogyny that I am talking about: believing that the majority of women is bad, but allowing for exceptions.

Please. Stop. Misunderstanding. I am not being misogynistic. I AM AGREEING WITH YOUR PERSPECTIVE

You still believe you are not misogynistic? Believing that good women are an exception to the rule?