Dear Tee,

Your hypothetical story is possible, but I find it very difficult to believe that level of extremity.

“How did he push you towards the breakup? You were breaking up all the time anyway.” I am referring to the times when he told B that I could be cheating without her knowing and the time when he fed her with more false information, which made her believe that we were breaking up cause I was cheating instead of breaking up over her cheating.

“If he waited for you to stop caring completely, he could be waiting a lifetime” Hell no, he knows that I was planning on blocking her entirely once I got my money.

“At this point you are her creditor, not her boyfriend. It could be a strictly business relationship. But it’s much more than business, at least to you…” Obviously I haven’t been allowed to move on yet cause she keeps calling me once in a while and tells me stuff like to take her to the atm, and I ask her if she would give me my money if I take her there and she says it depends on how much she has on her acc, so I walk her to the atm in the hopes of getting the money, only to find she barely has money. Every time she calls me, I take the call in the hopes of getting my money and she is leading me in circles with that trick.

“What wedge did he hammer between you and B? How is he responsible for your breakup?” Like I stated earlier, he told B that I could be cheating and another time he told her that I was interested in other girls and checking them out when he knows that is absolute bs, and stuff like that convinced B that the breakup was caused by my cheating instead of her cheating.

“Because she might be lying about half of it…” Even with the screenshots? The texts sound exactly like how he would behave.

“Besides, you too trust her rather than him, even if you’ve known her and her antics for almost 2 years.” No, I trust neither of them, but this kind of behavior was to be expected from him. He even broke up with his long distance gf cause he wanted to be sexually satisfied by other women instead of waiting for the girl who actually loved him.

“Well, he might… but you can ask him about this whole thing. Unless you want to keep accusing him without knowing the full story.” I asked another guy friend for his opinion and he said not to confront him cause it might ruin the friendship and it’s best to just keep my guard up around him.

” And since you’re not going to take the case to the court, you might as well start accepting the possibility that she’ll never return your money.” So even if I play it safe, I wont get my money?

“Your conversations don’t really have to end in a fight – if you learn how to stop being triggered by a narcissist. If you educate yourself. If you decide to stop allowing her to abuse you.” Yes I am working on that now. Teaching myself acceptance.

“It seems you still want to enable her.” I dont want to enable her, but it feels like i need to in order to get my money. Yk, to deal with a narcissist u gotta feed their ego until they are satisfied enough to stop bothering you.

Yeah I am working on learning how to deal with a narcissist. Hope it works.

Paradoxy