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Dear Tee,
“There cannot be a peaceful resolution with her, in the sense that she is finally happy with you and gives you back your money and you both go on your merry ways, separately.” Even if I don’t get a peaceful resolution with her, why give her more reasons to continue arguing with me? More material to use against me when he clearly knows the information is false?
“No, dear Paradoxy, SHE is the reason she is continuing to fight with you.” YES, BOTH OF US KNEW THAT. So why in the world did he give her more excuses to continue fighting?
“And btw, why would it be even your fault that your friend is hitting on her?” She is saying that she told me that my friends are bad and etc and that I have poor choice of friends.
“What I am trying to say is that even if he weren’t hitting on her, she would still be fighting with you.” We had stopped talking entirely until he hit on her and she sent me the screenshots. I would have appreciated it if I could have maintained that silence.
“And then of course, what else but to ask you to accompany her? Right?” Even if it is just her manipulation, I can’t have her death on my conscience, sorry.
“Am I right in assuming that she is acting very sweet on those walks to the ATM?” Yes, and crying on the way back home cause I rejected her advances.
“Nothing happened to her at those pool parties, where she was dancing almost naked, when you two weren’t dating yet.” Those parties can’t be compared to a dark alley that is known to have robberies occurring often.
“She doesn’t have to go to the ATM late at night” She doesn’t have to, but she will still do it, because she knows that I wont be able to sit still knowing she is out there walking alone in the middle of the night.
“First, why don’t you come up with a plan to pay you back in installments, e.g. $100 a month? I don’t know what’s your laptop worth, but I guess not more than $1000? So that would be 10 months.” That is exactly what I am doing. She already paid 100$ already, but she still has a lot more to give back.
“BTW, how much did she already pay back, if I may ask?” Like I stated earlier, she has only paid 100$ and she still has 400 more to go for the laptop (and another 400 for the investment that I paid right before our break up if possible).
“As far as the laptop money, perhaps the best way would be to get a summer job and earn a thousand bucks and that’s it.” Can’t get a summer job while in med, the work load is too much. I have exams coming up soon.
I just need to make myself stern and cold and only talk to her when she says the money is ready. That is the only solution rn.
Paradoxy