Just thinking to myself, so do not read if you do not want to.

When is it ever good news to hear a couple has separated for a period of time? Never is the answer. Being in a relationship means to be committed to each other. Good times, hard times and so on. When asked if you still like me, the answer should come easily. When there is silence then … Is the person bored and want something new? Why did this relationship turn into something disposable? It makes no sense to me. If you move in together then there must have been some sort of love and not just lust? Maybe some people do not understand that living together means much work to handle another’s sh!t. You find out how much you love your parents when they become old and you have to take care of them. It is a burden. But, one that we know we must get thru. So, living with your partner should mean taking the sh!t and working thru it together not separate. People who want to be separate are those looking for someone else or something else. If one is not happy with themselves then they won’t be happy with anyone. They will constantly look for the side with greener grass.

In hetero marriages, women are about 80% to initiate divorce proceedings. They say the marriage was over long before the divorce. Hitting the man with divorce from out of nowhere. And, the divorce women will often find it that much easier to marry and divorce again. So, as soon as they are bored or become unhappy, out comes the legal proceedings to split. I do not know if this is true but is what I have heard.

I am guessing that it is harder to find a person who has values which correspond with yours. No contact? Meaning do whatever you want to do without guilt or any sense of loyalty? No reporting? No caring. No sharing. Wow, how this must hurt. Like being left at the altar. Thinking one is in a real relationship and then having the rug pulled out from under one’s feet. Let down hard. All one wants to do is to hear her voice again. Hold her, Kiss her, look into her eyes and feel safe. But, it is out of reach.

Sorry for my rant. I wish you well and hope the next relationship is better.