Thanks for the reply. He’s remarried… and actually lived with his girlfriend for 2 years illegally before she became his wife. He still craves that control and hates to see me happy. I’m glad I won’t be the one spending their whole life wasting time holding on to anger and control like he does.

Trying not to talk to the ex boyfriend, he’s my boss so I have to interact with him at work. I’m trying no-contact now outside of work just for peace of mind.

Thank you for your reply! I’m trying so hard. Sometimes it just feels so overwhelming, in the thick of things, when I’m working so hard to get out of all of this and just be happy… and the progress seems completely halted or even backwards due to the chaos that I’m in the middle of. Lucky for me I have some great kids, and they continue to improve & become more well rounded little people every day, especially since I started working on getting myself together. The changes were almost instant.