Hello Laura,

For the sake of your burdened psyche, try to see the things that have happened as separate events. Not as a mass of things that are drowning you. I don’t know what kind of inner dialogue you have each day, but if you go through these things in your mind often, then it’s going to be really difficult to see the opportunities and possibilities of taking another path. It’s like rummaging through the attic and insisting on holding onto all dusty and broken items and carrying them around everywhere. In a sense, there is nothing wrong with old and broken items, if you can pay attention to them one by one and see their worth. The problem is a landslide of items that simply become overwhelming.

So, take one thing at a time and focus on that and see what you can make out of it. Everyone has competition, but still some people succeed. So competition in itself does not block your success.

If the court case is over, then take some time to really put it in rest and behind you. If it’s still ongoing, then keep it as a separate thing from the rest of your life.

If you haven’t dealt with the past relationship and spent time healing from it, then do that separately as well.

Even marathons are run one step at a time and all big projects become manageable when broken down to pieces. Baby steps…