Oh, boy.

I don’t know how much you can do if he is so very unwilling to try to work on your issues. If he doesn’t talk to you at all, how does he expect your relationship to work?

I do think that choosing not to fight and moderating your tone of voice is wise. But you also have a right to be honest about how you feel. Does he express his love an affection for you (outside of any quarrels)? If not, I’m not sure this can work at all. If so, maybe you can still make it work. Dogs don’t talk much, but still manage to love their humans, and humans love their dogs. (I’m joking.)

I’m not sure what to suggest other than discussing this with him and trying to find ways for the two of you to connect and understand each other. It sounds like you’re already doing that, though.