Hi Eevee,

Reading your story, it sounds like the way you feel about A and C are more in line with a friendship than any romantic feeling. At 22, it is often easy to confuse the two especially when guys are trying to get into the relationship zone via the friend zone (most of us eventually grow out of it). If you don’t have strong friendships around you, you will end up entering a relationship just because you want a friendship. This can work to a point but the main problem is that when someone you feel truly connected to shows up, like B, you will be unavailable. It also goes without saying that it’s tough to break up with someone who loves you because you don’t feel
that way about them AFTER you’ve been out for a while.

Personally, I try to avoid dating women who only have male friends becasue it usually means that she can only relate to men that are interested in her (which indicate poor social skills outside of the romantic world), that her self esteem needs to be boosted by male attention (which indicates insecurity within herself) and no matter how much we try, the relationship never work out because her main source of advice are from guys that wanted to date her. Generally speaking, the only men this type of women attract are hanger ons and users.

Before getting into a relationship, you should develop friendships with people that are not actively/passively trying to date you (e.g. other women). This will give you a point of reference re how you truly feel about a “guy friend”, a source of advice on how you should proceed and a comfort for when things didn’t work out.