Hi Jas,

OK, be very careful not to get caught in that mind trap!

I’ve noticed that the friends and family of jerks, rapists, murderers, animal abusers, cheaters, tax evaders, the list goes on, will ALWAYS “Stand by their son/man”. Have you noticed that it’s usually men?? Have you also thought, “Maybe if someone in their life said, ‘No’ to them once in a while maybe they wouldn’t be jerks, rapists, murderers”, you get the idea?

I think jerks and men somehow have a higher social value than nice women. Don’t jump down my throat people, that’s just what I’ve noticed in my own life. Jerky women seem to get away with some stuff, and nice men (when they do something wrong by accident LOL) but the nice girl seems to get steamrolled by the rest of humanity.

My own sister scolded me for inadvertently making her ex-husband feel bad, and the man cheated on her with two different women!!

If it makes you feel any better, there ARE some people who I would ask, “What did you say/do so s/he would act that way??” That could mean that they actually do view you on the same level as him and not a victim. Or, your ex REALLY knows how to play them and manipulate!