Dear Anyone:
You are right: he is 100% responsible for his actions. He is 100% responsible for the ad he put out there, for looking outside his marriage. You cary ZERO responsibility for his actions. You are responsible for answering his ad and you will be responsible for having a relationship with a married man with children if you choose to do so.

You wrote that you missed having someone in your life, so I figure an advantage, a benefit to you would be to have companionship, a physical and emotional intimacy to some degree or another, something better than nothing…?

A disadvantage could be pain that you may feel knowing that after he sees you he will go to bed with his wife, and having been with you, he may be less bored, more interested in her, being refreshed from the excitement of an extra marital affair. You will be in bed alone, wondering- will you not- what he is doing with his wife and kids while you are alone…?

If you think of the PLUSES (advantages) and the MINUSES (disadvantages) before you make a decision about any topic, you are more likely to choose what is going to bring you well being. And after all, isn’t your well being what you want? Don’t you want what is good for you?

There is a lot of wrong things happening in the world and I have no doubt, you experienced a lot of wrong done done to you by other people. That is a shame. Your attitude may be: what’s the point? Who cares?

I care right this minute as I write this: I care that you do the right thing for YOU. You do matter. Your well being matters. If you would like to do the PLUSES and MINUSES work in regard to this issue- please do and post. I would love to read it and respond further.

Take care:
anita