Dear Jamie Shipman:
I am sorry you have this bad luck to have been with two men who told you that they still loved their exes while being with you. It sucks when it happened once and more so when it happened again. You wrote that you “always become someone’s second.” Has it happened with more than the two men you mentioned? Has it been so for you as a child, being second to a sibling? Or with girlfriends being second to their other friends? I wonder what you mean by “always.” That can help me give you input that maybe can be helpful, I hope.
anita