hey brokenbird,

it is best to find the source of your anger. if you say you have no control over the situation, you have to look at it in a different way. I have felt too that my situation was uncontrollable and worse I assumed being angry, and being angry constantly was just the way life was.

Unfortunately this has led to a lot of mental and physical issues. I blamed myself and people around me. I get destructive and unrealistic when I am angry. I am not sure if you feel the same. But there is hope in dissolving your anger and feeling good again. Of course you will be angry, calm down, and then remember it again, maybe a trigger or something will bring the angry thoughts back.

It was until I saw a therapist that I understood that I had a right to be angry. Maybe you have a right to be angry. Maybe you know the reasons for being so angry. Once you accept that you are angry all the time, and you have reasons then you can start working towards healing your anger. Even if you let go of the anger and it arises again, that’s completely normal.

Anger is a destructive cycle. It has taken me a long time (years) to realize how destructive my anger is. Once I even told my therapist that I didn’t feel like myself when I was happy, that anger was all that I knew. She said it was a vicious thought cycle and would take diligence in stopping it.

I still deal with it but I am more conscious of my triggers and have found what makes me calm down quicker. Joining forums, talking to others, friends and family, or even going to a therapist can help alleviate your symptoms and with more time and practice, you will be able to move on from the anger and be able to put out the fire before it gets stronger.

I hope some of this helps 🙂