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  • #36897
    shamita guha
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    Greetings Everyone !

    Anger is a powerful feeling. We experience additional boost up in our energy when we are in rage. But sadly this extra energy is being used this energy in destruction.
    I remember , when I was still a kid, I got angry with my father and ran out of my house.When my anger subsided , I realized that I had run much more that what I can normally do.

    I recently read this story and decided to share it here http://upsohigh.com/the-angry-woman/

    #37123
    Jessica
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    Yes, anger is one of the hardest feelings to let go, imo. It intertwines so heavily with the ego that it feels like losing a great battle to give up the anger while it’s overpowering me. I think meditation can be a great help to people who become overwhelmed by feelings of anger. Meditation teaches us to be aware of our body and our connection to it (example: doing a buddhist body scan throughout the day helped me notice that when I’m stressed, I tend to hold tension in my upper back and forehead). I think we can use the “rage energy” in a constructive manner, though, if we choose to. We can turn that energy into whatever we wish – it is purely energy after all.

    #37146
    Christina Kellagher
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    I agree with both.

    When I was really angry as a teen I would go for a run and sometimes I would bolt as hard as I could until I became exhausted and had to stop. I think it shows how intensely consuming anger is and how abruptly it stops. I have been angry most of my life for past events and even to this day it affects me. It clouds my mind, consumes my thoughts, reduces positive feelings, etc.

    I have finally learned of a few things I can do to calm myself down but it is often hard because I succumb to “blind rage.” But it they might be effective for others too.

    I think it is important to walk away and be by yourself. When I am around someone that has made me angry or is making me angry I walk away and tell them I need space. I think it’s important to let them know that you need time to calm down so they don’t take it even more personally.

    Most people think this is running away from problems but to me it is effective to get some clearance from the trigger and breathe. Once the trigger is out of my physical sight I try to breathe deeply and once my physiological reaction has subsided, I can rationally talk myself down.

    Anger is the most irrational emotion. It is by far the most consuming more than love in my opinion and easiest to have. I think people are more apt to anger than to love. It is destructive not only to the mental and physical self but to other living things. I think it is wise that from an early age people learn to develop a sense of emotional intelligence, to recognize their reactions and find personal solutions to come back to rationality.

    #37444
    Bob
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    The water kettle of my life never knew what cooling down meant, it was normal for my steam whistle to blow off at any moment without warning. Having this uncontrolled rage living inside of me never actually gave me a sense of alarm. In fact I began to embrace it, all of this energy surging inside of me, if I could get angry before going out the door; I knew it was going to be a good day or at least I thought of it as one.

    During the course of a week, if I had not engaged in at least five fist fights at school something was truly wrong. Forming relationships was difficult for me until I got into a sports program and got interested in females. Never allow females to get passed the walls I had built around myself. As a child I would witness a pattern of physical violence that was most distrubing. Because of what I had seen as a boy, I could never brutally harm anyone.

    Anger for me became a need, an addiction as strong as opium and I knew that only a higher power as God was my only hope. It would take years for anger to lose its grip on my life. When I think about it, I shudder at how close I was to going over the edge.

    It has been a road of discovery for me. First came forgiveness, self control, learning how to use this energy I had bottled up inside of me, peace, happiness and finally a bubbling fountain of joy. Love would not darken my door until I quit looking for it in all of the wrong places. Emotions are generally electro-charged bursts of energy which can enrich our life or destroy it.

    When you are ready to step out of this emotion rollercoaster of rage, you may stumble or fall flat on your face but never give up. There is always a helping hand extended in your direction but it will remain out of reach unless you reach up and take hold of it firmly. Then you will be up on your feet again.

    #37453
    brokenbird
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    i’m angry all the time within. but since i have no control over the situation unintentionally i let go then i remember the feeling and it might not have subsided at all.

    #37468
    Christina Kellagher
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    hey brokenbird,

    it is best to find the source of your anger. if you say you have no control over the situation, you have to look at it in a different way. I have felt too that my situation was uncontrollable and worse I assumed being angry, and being angry constantly was just the way life was.

    Unfortunately this has led to a lot of mental and physical issues. I blamed myself and people around me. I get destructive and unrealistic when I am angry. I am not sure if you feel the same. But there is hope in dissolving your anger and feeling good again. Of course you will be angry, calm down, and then remember it again, maybe a trigger or something will bring the angry thoughts back.

    It was until I saw a therapist that I understood that I had a right to be angry. Maybe you have a right to be angry. Maybe you know the reasons for being so angry. Once you accept that you are angry all the time, and you have reasons then you can start working towards healing your anger. Even if you let go of the anger and it arises again, that’s completely normal.

    Anger is a destructive cycle. It has taken me a long time (years) to realize how destructive my anger is. Once I even told my therapist that I didn’t feel like myself when I was happy, that anger was all that I knew. She said it was a vicious thought cycle and would take diligence in stopping it.

    I still deal with it but I am more conscious of my triggers and have found what makes me calm down quicker. Joining forums, talking to others, friends and family, or even going to a therapist can help alleviate your symptoms and with more time and practice, you will be able to move on from the anger and be able to put out the fire before it gets stronger.

    I hope some of this helps 🙂

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