Posts tagged with “wisdom”
From Pain to Power: Letting Go of Approval to Love Myself
“If you love yourself, it doesn’t matter if other people like you because you don’t need their approval to feel good about yourself.” ~Lori Deschene
For most of my life, I worried about what others thought. Every move I made felt like a performance for someone else. I’d built my life on their approval.
Then came the losses. Three family members were gone in a matter of years. Each time, the grief hit like a fist to the gut.
My mother was my pillar of strength; my father, who might not have always been there for me but was still …
A Beautiful Reminder of How Powerful We Are
“No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another… A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.” ~Amelia Earhart
When you’re having a particularly rough day, it’s tempting to hang your head in defeat and conclude it’s a cruel world where nothing matters. I had a day like that last month.
A good friend was diagnosed with a horrendous disease. The horse I had been training with for years …
Because I Lost My Mom: 6 Gifts I Now Appreciate
“The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don’t have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it.” ~Chris Pine
I had a happy, carefree childhood up until a point. I remember lots of giggles, hugs, and playfulness. One summer, as we were sitting in my grandmother’s yard enjoying her homemade cake, my mum’s right hand started trembling.
My worried grandmother encouraged her to eat, but her hand continued to tremble. I remember her troubled look. She must have sensed something was wrong.
Just three months later, she was gone. Acute …
“Am I the Narcissist?” How to Tell If It’s You
“Narcissism is voluntary blindness, an agreement not to look beneath the surface.” ~Sam Keen
Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Am I the narcissist in this relationship?” If so, you’re not alone. This question can feel heavy and unsettling, especially if you’ve spent years tangled in a toxic dynamic. The more you try to figure things out, the more confusing it becomes.
But here’s something to hold onto: The very fact that you’re asking this question is a sign that you probably aren’t narcissistic.
Am I the Narcissist?
Victims of narcissistic abuse often find themselves questioning their actions, …
Why I Stopped Measuring My Pain Against Others’ Suffering
“A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. But just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to.” ~Dr. Thema
I just returned from a walk with a dear friend—one of my favorite ways to catch up and socialize. This particular friend has endured significant challenges, especially over the past year. She faced the immense loss of her pets and many of her possessions in a devastating house fire.
The ensuing tsunami of grief and pain pushed her through a tumultuous year filled with deep suffering and intense healing efforts. All the while, …
5 Practical Tips for Overcoming the Pressure to Do More
“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” ~Deepak Chopra
There was a time in my life when chaos seemed to have the upper hand. I tried so hard to keep things together, but it felt like the more I tried to control things, the more they spiraled. I had goals and dreams, sure, but the stress of not being “there” yet always consumed me.
I remember one night sitting on the edge of my bed, feeling completely drained. I’d just had a tough conversation with a close friend, one of those exchanges where every word …
How Embracing What I Resisted Healed Me from Chronic Illness
“What you resist not only persists but will grow in size.” ~Carl Jung
Ever since I was diagnosed with Lupus at the age of five, my life has felt like a never-ending struggle against fatigue, pain, and a myriad of symptoms. Despite trying numerous treatments and medications when I was younger, I never felt truly vibrant. My body seemed perpetually at war with itself, leaving me exhausted and unfulfilled.
Multiple flares often took me away from school and friends. I wondered why I couldn’t just live a childhood free of pain and suffering, like the other kids.
I struggled with …
The Silent Struggle: When Saying “No” Is Not That Simple
“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” ~Nathaniel Branden
I vividly recall a morning when my son was just five years old. My husband wanted to leave the country we were living in again, this time to escape what he believed was the imminent collapse of society due to COVID.
After years of constant relocations, I had finally started to build a community of friends, my son was settled in school, and I was beginning to feel some sense of normalcy. But he couldn’t stand it. My growing independence seemed to threaten him, and I …
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