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You’ll Do What You Have to Do

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Have a Little Faith in Yourself

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How to Overcome Ultra-Independence and Receive Love and Support

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“Ultra-independence is a coping mechanism we develop when we’ve learned it’s not safe to trust love or when we are terrified to lose ourselves in another. We aren’t meant to go it alone. We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship.” ~Rising Woman

Do you feel like you have to do everything on your own?

Is it difficult for you to ask for and receive help for fear of being let down?

Have you ever heard the expression “Ultra-independence may be a trauma response”?

If this is you, I get it; that was me too.

Please know there …

You Were Doing the Best You Could

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The Hardest Thing to Get Over

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Some of the Most Meaningful Boundaries

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You Only Get So Many Minutes

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The Credit You Deserve

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Loosen a Bit

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Why I Gossiped and What I Now Do Instead

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“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

I stopped gossiping when life humbled me. I didn’t realize at the time, but what I thought was just innocent girl talk with my friends was really a way to escape my own shame and insecurity.

I had this quiet, ongoing sense that I wasn’t measuring up personally or emotionally. Gossiping about someone else gave me a fleeting escape, since it allowed me to shift my focus to someone else’s behavior. Every time I did it, I felt a sense of guilt and shame after, but I never thought too …

This Is Your Sign to Take a Walk

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Speak Life into Others

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How to Live a Joyful Life

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Feed What Will Continue On

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The Freeze Response

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Speak Up for Yourself

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They Have to Want to Try

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Let Good Enough Be Good Enough

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Anxiety Sucks, But It Taught Me These 7 Important Things

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“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” ~Soren Kierkegaard

Let’s be clear:

This isn’t an article about positive thinking.

This isn’t an article about how silver linings make everything okay.

This isn’t an article about how your perspective on anxiety is all wrong.

The kids call those things “toxic positivity.”

No toxic positivity here.

This is an article about my lifelong relationship with anxiety and what I’ve learned from something that won’t go away. At times the anxiety spikes and feels almost crippling. I have a hard time appreciating the learning at those times, but it’s still there.

That is what …

You Will Grieve Forever

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