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  • March 11, 2015 at 6:12 pm #73852
    Victor
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    Hey everyone,

    So I’m 24 years old and I currently live with my family…part of the time, at least. I have been out of college now for 2 years and have worked professionally as an actor. So I’ll spend months at a time away from home (with my family) but then when those jobs end, this is where I come until I land the next job. I am so grateful that my family has allowed me to be here, but it feels like I rot when I’m here. I get depressed, become physically unhealthy, and feel my life is not moving forward. Stuck.

    While I feel lucky and somewhat accomplished when it comes to my career in theatre, I also have a drive to be independent and relocate somewhere permanently without living in my hometown. I’ll live on my own (or with other actors) for the duration of my acting contracs, but I want to experience this ALL THE TIME.

    A friend of mine in Los Angeles has offered me to live with her but it’s in a super dangerous area that would not be a good place for me at all. Also, I’m in about 50k of student debt, and with a couple mishaps, I’m having to rebuild my credit. So leasing an apartment (at least on my own) is not an option at the moment.

    I just don’t know what to do. I feel stuck here. I want to move but don’t know where to go nor how to live there with my credit. But with each day that I am in this town, it eats at me. I feel like something has to change. Must change.

    March 15, 2015 at 9:57 pm #73964
    George
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    Dear friend

    I sympathise with your troubles.
    Maybe the facts are undeniable. The way you put them at least to me seems that you are facing a difficult situation.
    The solution could be changing your attitude towards the problem you are facing. Let me explain. Why do feel so sad when you are with your parents? Do you think people will judge you? Say that you still rely on your family for example? Do you care what other people think?
    What matters the most is to pursue your dreams not having them right know, achieved. Family is the first and most basic stepping stone for us to emerge into adulthood. After a certain age it is normal to feel restrained by the limitations that family life also includes.

    Ok!What can you do about it? Emotional handling, patience, avoid self blame, a lot of young people, like me, are in a situation similar to yours. Second job that helps you pay your debts and eventually have a home on your own. Understand why you may hesitate or still feel troubled by this situation even if you wish to take steps to change it.
    Wish, Will, Decision are different postures in a difficult situation. Wish belongs to the realm of fantasy. Will means you made peace with reality and are ready to take part on it (for example if you can’t leave your home right now start smiling every day.) Decision means acting, engaging reality and that needs courage.

    Here is an article that may help from tinybuddha :

    Live a Big Life: Shift from “Why Me?” to “Why?”

    Please don’t forget what you already achieved in your life. Many people dream of making money from acting even for a little while and you are doing exactly that! Don’t be harsh on your self. Life indeed is always moving on, but not so fast that you should panic and get depressed because you haven’t done everything you want yet. In other words, don’t rush your self. Don’t strech your spirit too much.

    Take care friend
    Let me know how things go after a while!
    And if you still feel sad you can always reach out on this lovely online community and ask for advice.
    George

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