Dear With Feathers:

Your pain is completely understandable. Seven years is a significant part of your life, and losing someone who has been a meaningful part of your everyday routine feels like losing a part of yourself. It’s natural to grieve, to cry, and to struggle with how to move forward.

But something really important stands out in your words—you already know that this relationship has no future, yet the love and attachment pull you back. You are holding on not to the reality of your relationship, but to the dream of what you wish it could be.

That’s not weakness. That’s what happens when our hearts resist change, even when our minds understand it’s necessary.

Letting go doesn’t mean immediately stopping the pain—it means choosing yourself when someone else is no longer choosing you. It means acknowledging that you deserve mutual love and effort, not something one-sided.

What if you shifted your focus away from trying to hold on and toward learning how to process this loss with grace? That doesn’t mean suppressing your feelings—it means allowing them, but also giving yourself space to heal, to gradually untangle your life from hers, and to start envisioning a future where you feel whole again.

This is messy, heartbreaking, and incredibly difficult, but you will survive this, and one day, this pain won’t feel so overwhelming. You will rediscover joy, love, and fulfillment in ways you can’t see right now.

Sending strength and encouragement. 💛

anita