Almost 2 years back, I became friendly with my neighbor who was pregnant at that time. She is of my age. We used to chat about our likes, in-law issues, my bad
relationship with my parents, my marriage turmoils and all tits bits of daily life. We used gossip about so many things including other neighbors. I never liked her husband. He seems to me weird. After birth of her child, I was attached to him. But later got hurt when the couple didnot allowed their son to wear my gift. I gently insisted as a friend. But they never reciprocated. Later, her husband started questioning my husband about our relationship. He often started following our travel plans and the reasons too. We found this behaviour very annoying. Slowly, I distanced myself from her since I found that they were trying to track the warmth of our marital relationship . Actually, since we are not opting for kids, I think they were finding this weird. Now, I hardly talk to her. Once she inquired and told that I am keeping busy especially from her. I mildly protested and told that I am busy (since I work from home). Now, her kid comes to our home, but I don’t know why I never ask her to sit at my home. Now a days, the couple is superbly friendly with other neighbours who have kids. They visit their house and talk for hours. I feel so jealous, irritated and at the same I can’t forget their previous behaviour. I feel like a social outcast at times. I feel that I am so bad that I can’t mingle well with all people. Infact, nowadays, i don’t visit any family who have kids. All they ask is when I am expecting my baby or what’s the reason I haven’t conceived yet…. So typical people. All these married ladies speak only of family issues which never interest me nor make me feel happy.
You’re not a social phobiac – you just have another type of life than most of people around you. That naturally sets a different tone for your interests and social circles that you’re in. Sure it would be nice to be able to mingle with all sorts of people, but do you really need that? I mean, you surely have other friends to talk to, not just people who live nearby, who are more supportive to your and your lifestyle.