Dear ann:

Let’s look at your former best friend’s claim that you copied her, that you weren’t your own person for copying “everything she did… from make-up, to clothes, to  decorating, to goals”-

I will assume for a moment that you  did. Thing is, who did she copy?

There are so many magazines and online entries, so many commercials about make up, clothes, decorating, even goals (articles, blogs, books, TV shows..)- she didn’t come to her choices in those areas free of the influence of all these sources.

There is no one on the face of the earth, not in a modern society with TV and internet, not with people around, past and present who is not copying others.

Is there a chef who did not watch cooking shows and is copying parts of what he watched, a clothing designer who does not copy other people’s designs, at least parts of those designs. Is there a musician who doesn’t copy elements of music he or she listened to?

The answer to all these, I believe,  is no. We all copy, can’t not copy.

Still assuming you copied from your former friend, a safe assumption at least in part because of what I typed above,  she may not be aware that she copied some things from you, a safe assumption for the same reason.

Why was she angry, I wonder. This is another issue. We can communicate about her anger issue, if you would like. Fist, perhaps the copying issue above.

anita