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  • May 17, 2021 at 9:33 am #379988
    Anonymous
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    Dear Charlotte:

    You are welcome, and don’t worry about delays in posting back, post whenever it is convenient for you. It’s perfectly fine and appropriate for you to tell your therapist that you want to take a break from therapy, and maybe resume again later. You didn’t enter a legal contract with your therapist that says you have to  attend therapy with her for any particular length of time.

    You can take a temporary or permanent break from therapy whenever you choose. Your only ethical, and/or legal  responsibilities to your therapist are: (1) to pay her for her services, (2) to give her a reasonable notice when cancelling an appointment, so that she can fill in the time with another client, (3) if you plan to not see her again for weeks, months or longer, it will be helpful to her if you let her know of it, so that she can plan her schedule better.

    I am having a fine day, thank you. Personally, I am thrilled with the recent CDC guidelines regarding fully vaccinated people not having to wear masks outdoors and indoors, in most cases: I hope that these guidelines will encourage people who are vaccine- ambivalent, to get vaccinated!

    anita

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    May 20, 2021 at 9:52 am #380120
    Charlie
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    Hi Anita!

    Thank you so much again for your insight. Wow, you have helped me so much over the years. I’ve been following your advice from a few weeks ago on trying to talk to little Charlotte and listen to what she needs with regards to her relationship with her parents and other things. Specifically, I purchased a journal about the shadow self and have been going through the exercises and prompts daily. Hopefully that will help me tune into her!

    Regarding my therapist, thank you as well – this all makes sense. I think I will keep her for a couple months longer and see where life takes me. If I’m still feeling much better, I think I will take a break then. It is daunting to let go especially when your therapist hasn’t worked on creating a plan for afterwards, but as we discussed, I don’t have unlimited funds.

    I am certainly very excited about the CDC guildelines too and it’s made me feel so much more optimistic about the future. I really hope it helps to encourage the rest of the population to get vaccinated too! Great news to have ahead of summer. 🙂

    Charlotte

    May 20, 2021 at 10:27 am #380124
    Anonymous
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    Dear Charlotte:

    You are welcome and thank you for expressing your appreciation. I am glad to read that you are doing exercises aimed at talking with little Charlotte. She needs to  be listened to, she has more to say!

    You wrote regarding letting go of therapist: “It is daunting to let go especially when your therapist hasn’t worked on creating a plan for afterwards.. I don’t have unlimited funds”- bring this up to your therapist. If you can’t bring this up to her and take it from there toward a resolution (be it remaining in therapy or leaving), then what’s the valid point of continuing therapy? (There may be a point, but I can’t think  of one).

    I like it that you and I share similar views on politics and public health (two topics that should be separate!)

    anita

    May 21, 2021 at 5:25 am #380157
    Charlie
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    Hi Anita,

    Very good point about bringing that concern up to my therapist! Thank you – I most certainly will. I like to think I am honest and open with her 95% of the time, but with this issue, my people pleasing issues seem to be coming to the surface. Now that I see that, I think I will better be able to talk with her openly about it. Sometimes it just takes running things by someone else, so thank you again 🙂

    We definitely share many of the same views. It is really so helpful to find someone like you out there in the internet world who has similar views to me and is so dedicated to mental health. I hope you have a wonderful day, Anita!

    Charlotte

    May 21, 2021 at 7:14 am #380165
    Anonymous
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    Dear Charlotte:

    Thank you for your kind words. About your people pleasing regarding your therapist- this is your opportunity to address the issue in therapy in a personal way: there you are afraid to displease her by stopping therapy, feeling anxious about it- talk to her about it, as difficult as it will be. She should be honest and supportive of you on this matter, as on any other matter.

    I hope you have a wonderful Friday and weekend!

    anita

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