Hi guys,
I’ve been following the forums and the site for a few weeks now. It’s part of a path that i’ve started down after meeting some one very special. During this new relationship i’ve come to realize i have a lot of work to do in my own growth. I’ve been seeing a councilor on relationships which i recommend anyone to do if they think they need it. It’s been very liberating. She also recommended i read a new earth, which shattered my world in a good way, and really woke me up to a lot of things i need to work on.

My question today is about honesty. While i don’t lie about “important” things, i’ve come to see that a lie is a lie. As such i noticed i have a tendency to exaggerate about my past in order to feel accepted. Back story, i’ve moved around a lot as a kid and constantly had new friend circles i wanted to adapt to to fit in.

One of these exaggerations i’ve told to this person i’ve started a relationship with at a party in front of a few people. She has been seriously hurt in the past due to lies. I tend to over think things in my mind… a lot (and could be doing this right now), but in the pursuit of honesty and authenticity I’m not sure if i should fess up to this exaggeration or just accept that i’ve done it, let go, and move on putting forward the true self i’m striving to embody. While i really care about her and, and i know she likes me, she’s told me how important authenticity is to her. Where before exaggerations were something i would use to make a story more grandiose to please crowds, its important to me now that i’m appreciated for who i actually am, and not what i think people will like me for being.

Thanks for your time
-P