Hi Angel

So Much of our anxiety is created not by what does or does not happen to us but by our thoughts on how we view the past and imagine the future. Nothing chases away the opportunity for the experience of happiness then paying to attaching our sense of self to our memories and fears of the future.  Identifying ourselves with these thoughts will most assuredly take us out of the present.  The possibility of the experience of happiness lies in the present. Seeking it in the past and what might be works against us. (Happiness isn’t something we create but something we experience. These moments can occur taking out the garbage or curing cancer.)

“The car goes where the eyes go” without awareness the eyes tend to focus on our fears, and doing so that is what we crash into.  Mindfulness and meditation may help.

In Mindfulness you learn to notice when your eyes/thoughts are focused on the past and or future and how your sense of self is being influenced by that focus.  Ask yourself if you notice feeling bad about feeling bad. That would be an indication that you have attached your sense of self to how you feel. Try not to judge or label yourself for doing that. The practice is to notice. Eventually you may notice you can experience your feelings and thoughts about your feelings without “being” your thoughts and feelings.

In Meditation you learn how to detach yourself from thoughts and emotion. You are not your memories, you are not your future, you are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts. There are thoughts, there are feelings, there are experiences… You are not that.

The “quite mind” is not a mind that stops chattering, but a way of being that does not attach identity and or sense of self to the chatter.  Your mind is doing what it was designed to do, you are not your mind….

Best wishes