April 19, 2019 at 10:17 am #289781JoeParticipant
Lately I haven’t been feeling down, actually life seems pretty good. I feel more connected to people and feel more confident.
But I still struggle with some sort of anxiety when I’m alone. I feel overwhelmed with my thoughts, I feel like I’m always thinking about other people and past situation when alone.
The fact that I think about all that stresses me because I do not want to be in the past and I want to enjoy doing daily things and pleasures without being too distracted. I know I’ve always kind of been this way, but since I’ve been meditating and aware of my mental health I’ve become stressed by what I’m thinking and not being present
I am continuing to meditate at least once a day ( I’m never able to go a full week), and I don’t know how but hopefully my mind will get calmer. I think I am trying to reach some balance, between being mindful and non-judgmental of what thoughts I’m having.
But for the rest things are going pretty great, I feel like I’m becoming more myself.April 19, 2019 at 11:30 pm #289883LittleDragonParticipant
Great to hear that you are starting to find yourself again.
My advice is to let go what’s sits in the past. Thinking about the past won’t change anything and it’s only deteriorating your health mentally and physically. I’ve been through that before!
What you can focus on now is what you can change in the present to improve your future. Exchange those negative thoughts and do something positive for yourself, like reading a book, take an art lesson or do some community work – anything to improve yourself.
I used to go through depression myself. Nothing I did made me happier and my thoughts goes all gloomy. Then I eventually realized I’ve wasted all that time being depressed when I could spent all that time improving myself or do charity work to help those in need. What makes me sad most is seeing someone bedridden and no longer has control over their life – these are the people that suffers most. So every time I think I’m going downhill, I think of these people and push myself out of those thoughts and control what I can now and not what I can’t control.
On a good note, it’s great that you are meditating. Keep it up!
Hope that helps 🙂April 20, 2019 at 9:46 am #289935anitaParticipant
“I feel overwhelmed with my thoughts.. I’m always thinking about other people and past situations when alone”- but it is natural, that is what the brain does, it thinks. And when you are not distracted, not focused on a task, not interacting with another person, your brain will think of people and past situations. Everyone’s brain does it. Even the best meditators, their brains wander too.
What is it that is recorded and stored in our brains? The past, not the future. This means that past memories will get activated and reactivated, not … future memories, such don’t exist yet.
Don’t be alarmed when your brain wanders, expect it to happen because it will. Because you don’t want to think so much, when you notice that you are thinking- distract, focus elsewhere. Then when you find yourself thinking about the past yet again, gently distract and refocus yet again.
- This reply was modified 1 year, 1 month ago by anita.