December 1, 2013 at 9:27 am #46025moodringParticipant
I am very jealous of my best friend and her good looks/charming personality. She always seems to get noticed first and people always have comments about how gorgeous she is and even how she is wasting her good looks by not modeling. I have no reason to feel she doesn’t deserve these comments, if anything she absolutely does!
I just always feel like i am in a subconscious competition with her and get anxious that people like her more than me. It’s even harder when I like a boy and it comes time to bring them around her, I gets nervous that said boy will also like her more than me!
I just want to feel comfortable and don’t want to be comparing myself to my own best friend like that 24/7. I know we are both different people and there are different attractive things about us. I know I am attractive and have a nice personality too I just don’t feel like I stick out as much and get cast in the shadows and don’t feel so great anymore.
Any advice on how to calm this crazy (somewhat evil) feeling down?!??December 2, 2013 at 3:42 am #46069BobParticipant
Greetings Moodring ~~~
If SHE is truly a good friend, someone you have known for a long period of time; then you know some of HER flaws or shortcomings. Most likely you can do things much better than SHE can physically. Perhaps you have a ‘green thumb’ and can grow just about anything. YOU maybe an abstract artist, a fashion designer, a lover of bluegrass music, the performing arts or even the theatre. When you learn how to see beyond just ‘face value’ you will discover what true beauty truly is.
Become a confident, elegant lady who can stand alone on HER own two feet with HER head held up high. The compliments and adoration will fall upon you like soft raindrops. Be well and always wear a smile as you walk in peace.December 5, 2013 at 9:27 am #46254AnonymousInactive
I am sorry to hear that you are going through those feelings. It is only natural to feel this way so don’t get too down on yourself! I completely agree with Bob’s comment. It can be hard when you feel less than but try to remember that everyone has their own flaws and insecurities. Although she is beautiful I am sure she doesn’t possess all the great qualities that you do. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it may sound trite but maybe others aren’t as attracted to her as you think. For example, you may appreciate the tall dark and handsome look of Hugh Jackman, but your friend my find him less attractive due to his personality. Try to remind yourself of your own strengths and appreciate the good things about your friendship. Best of luck to you – keep in mind their is nothing more attractive than happiness and confidence!December 8, 2013 at 3:38 pm #46403MarieParticipant
I understand completely how you feel. Although, I don’t feel my best friend is more attractive than I am, she has this amazing personality. She stands out and I always feel like nothing. It’s hard for me to make friends, while for her, she can make at least 10 friends in one day. So, yeah, I totally get it. There is only one thing you can do however and that is to fix the insecurities you have about yourself. To have more self-confidence and more self-value. Because there is nothing you can do to make her less attractive or less appealing personality wise nor can you make other people like you more. It all has to start within you. Change how you feel about things. You have to go deeper within yourself and figure out what’s wrong.