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December 4, 2013 at 9:42 pm #46237
this is amazing! thank you so much! great perspective i respect you for being taking things into your own hands 🙂 this helped me out a lot. especially your concrete examples lol.December 2, 2013 at 7:19 am #46074
@comfixit well number one, i definitely dislike those feelings of jealously. i don’t think i have the confidence in myself to subside that feeling completely though, meaning i have nothing that’s ’better’ than her to help me fall back on to give myself that confidence boost. especially in the looks department. i’ve had an experiences before with a different friend with a boy i liked where they would go behind my back.
i don’t know if that carried over to her even though i’ve been friends with the two girls for the same amount of time! so basically my feelings get hurt and i get anxious about going out with her and her meeting people that i am close with and those feelings suck! it’s especially hard to talk about that with others as well. just dont know what to do about it…
number 2- the only thing that makes me feel better with any situation with her is that the type of boys we like are usually not the same. at least the kinds we’ve dated in the past anyway! i am not sure how i would feel if i didn’t have those paranoid feelings because i’ve never NOT felt that way. is it even possible? i know one boy i used to hook up with met her recently and now has been messaging her a few times to meet for drinks and what not.
i was even confused how they had each others numbers and when i playfully ask the response is usually a somewhat awkward ”i dont know.” i am not romantically interested in him but i was once so it still makes me feel weird. i also know she isn’t interested in him either and she’s the type to not ignore people because she likes everyone to like her so i am assuming she messaged him back at one point without telling me which is fine i just dont get why i feel so awful. so to your second question i have no idea?! i need some emotional guidance.December 1, 2013 at 10:14 pm #46060
@Cari I love your advice! one day I hope to maybe get the courage to do that. i enjoy sharing my feelings with others and respect honesty to the utmost. i know how close i am to her so i know a lot of her flaws/weaknesses as well. i feel like sometimes i might say something that may give off the jealousy vibe or a subtle way of letting her know how i feel in the moment and gets a little awkward. and i never try to show that in a evil vindictive way, maybe just a playful comment but just hasn’t seemed to go over right yet. thanks so much.December 1, 2013 at 9:50 pm #46058
Despite all the obstacles you have overcome together, life goes on and feelings change. When it’s time to move on I believe your subconscious mind tells your body to give you that signal or “gut feeling.” All these experiences you’ve had with your mom and the drama with him does not lead you into a life where whatever your doing and feels comfortable is the end all be all. don’t be afraid to go out and try new experiences!
if anything, it is great you are recognizing your need to get out there and explore, while others (such as myself did once) can suppress those feelings and stick with something that just never feels quite right only because it’s familiar.
and hey girl i am 23 too! with no responsibilities of a child yourself and the freedom to do want you want to do it while you can should be the top of your to do list! I feel like our 20’s are our selfish years and we find out more and more about ourselves as the years go on. so the more self-expoloring and self-awareness you do now the more you will learn about what you really want in life as it comes.
good luck :)~December 1, 2013 at 11:50 am #46027
@comfixit oh okay makes more sense! haha. i appreciate everything you say. even some of my ex’s in the past have mentioned her in ways i felt uncomfortable or in my paranoid mind thought they were making comments about her because they were interested in her (hard to explain). A (somewhat bad) example would be: a boy i was with once asked me if i told my friends about how good in bed he is as we were”sexting” one day. The problem was that she is literally my only good friend, which he knows, and i felt like he was just trying to find out what she thought about him to boost his ego.December 1, 2013 at 9:22 am #46024
thanks so much for your reply/advice! i just have one question what does “Galen” mean?
“The best thing that can Galen is you see a guy you really like wants you more than her (Or anyone else).”