Hi Anita

I’m sorry for disturbing you and I’m sorry that you feel hurt.

You have been making multiple comments that suggested that you were upset about comments being reported.

I just don’t believe in ignoring people. We frequent the same forum. I wanted to give you the opportunity to speak about it.

I’m going to point out that I haven’t even attempted to communicate with you until you started to make these comments about your feelings being hurt about reported comments.

You asked that I report your comments instead of discussing issues and said that was what you preferred. People are allowed to disagree with language used. Most of the time your language is fine. Other times I find it can be harsh and I am concerned for other members of the community.

I’m going to point out that I report other users comments when they use harsh language too. It is up to moderators to decide how they wish to handle any reported comments.

Again, I’d like to acknowledge that you have made generally made great improvements in how you communicate with members.

If you would like to discuss this further please feel free to reply or create your own topic.

Dear Maisy: I am sorry about this interruption in your thread. I hope the above was the last such interruption.

anita

Hi Lori

By reporting comments containing Anita’s harsh language I’m protesting the abuse that has been directed towards myself and other members of the community.

For some who deeply values reading every message and replying to each community member, ignoring community members is a form of abuse.

This treatment was historically reserved for members who commited sexual abuse. I was stonewalled, publicly shamed and verbally abused simply for suggesting that anxiety levels were high. For peacefully protesting abuse, I was told that I called a liar and verbally abused in my personal thread.

Your moderation team actively permitted and ignored this abuse. I humbly request that you personally review the abuse I’ve received from this member. I hope that you decide to do more than your moderation team did.

I have the right to protest abuse.

I would love to resolve this situation. However, it  seems like I’m the only one. It won’t disappear by pretending the situation doesn’t exist.

I think you will find that your moderation team hasn’t been upholding the community guidelines and has failed to protect this community.

Hi Lori

You talked to her about it in private. She’s still behaving in the same way.

Calling me, the person she abused a stalker for giving her an opportunity to talk about her feelings and clear the air.

She hasn’t even apologised after the last time she was abusive.  I’ve had to leave this community twice because of the abuse.

The only person who has heard about any of this publicly is me. I’ve been asked to never contact her. Publicly anita had zero repercussions. I’ve been left to deal with this situation myself.

To be clear, I’m not asking for her to be removed from the forum.

That’s a shame. She’s a valued member of the community and will be missed.