There is almost always “an anxious feeling” about losing attachment to a person, it never feels right.. a feeling of: did it really happen.. was it real to begin with.. lingers. It takes time before it feels right. Have patience and it will soon feel Real and Right.
Logically I know this. And I know no contact is the best way forward. It’s just really hard when it seemed so abrupt. And you wonder if they will ever regret it even if you know that doesn’t really matter. But it’s just a natural thing to gravitate to.
Yes, Lesley. When a strong emotional attachment is undone, it’s like experiencing an earthquake, the ground on which you stand is shaking.. and you hope that he’ll regret it so that the ground stops shaking.. is it this way, for you?
Yes. Very much so. I would never take him back because I could never trust someone who would treat me that way, but I want him to know that the way he ended it with a perfectly nice person was careless, insensitive and wrong. I deserved an actual conversation.
You deserve an actual conversation. Isn’t it a shame that we so often don’t get what we deserve… because it’s inconvenient for the other person to give us what we deserve.. It’s a hard pill to swallow.
It is a shame. And I know it’s a part of the process. And that I need to let it go. I keep trying to see that metal door and say in the scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. It is closed now.
He closed it, so it’s closed. In the bigger scheme of things, like you said, it doesn’t really matters. It feels like it matters, but practically- it doesn’t. He is not that important in your life.. not important at all. It’s the hopes you had about him that are gone, hopes and dreams related to him.
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