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  • #386360
    Lesley
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    I suppose that’s the only way to think about it. And I guess he’s really not. Thanks for that reminder.

    #386358
    Lesley
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    It is a shame. And I know it’s a part of the process. And that I need to let it go. I keep trying to see that metal door and say in the scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. It is closed now.

    #386352
    Lesley
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    Yes. Very much so. I would never take him back because I could never trust someone who would treat me that way, but I want him to know that the way he ended it with a perfectly nice person was careless, insensitive and wrong. I deserved an actual conversation.

    #386350
    Lesley
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    Logically I know this. And I know no contact is the best way forward. It’s just really hard when it seemed so abrupt. And you wonder if they will ever regret it even if you know that doesn’t really matter. But it’s just a natural thing to gravitate to.

    #386348
    Lesley
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    I am not sure. My gut just felt off and I wanted to reach out to him. An anxious feeling. I didn’t and I am not going to because I don’t think it would solve anything. I have been feeling fairly positive and then today. I just keep wondering if it was ever real.

    #386346
    Lesley
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    I have been practicing some of what you have said. It does help so I want to thank you. For some reason, I had a very hard time not contacting him today and I don’t know why. Something was nagging at me.

    #386265
    Lesley
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    Those are all solid things for me to work towards. Thank you. Any advice on how to get the loop of replaying the relationship out of my mind and stop wondering why he did this?

    #386248
    Lesley
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    Thank you. Any tips for getting through this even without the answers?

    #386229
    Lesley
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    You are right. It’s just very sad and seemed unnecessary, but I know I can’t control it. Mail it back. Be done

    #386215
    Lesley
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    Perhaps. He has done this before to others. Just decided that it wasn’t there and ended it. Or at least that is what he has told me. I protested a little and then just let it go. I have some of his things that I know he would want. I am thinking of just mailing them with no note and trying to be really done.

    #386210
    Lesley
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    I know it will reverse nothing honestly. He made up his mind without me or any of my input. He has not attempted to reach out. After initially showing upset and saying he was probably going to regret it, he turned cold the next day. Just said that the spark was gone and we needed to move on. That was the way a year and a half of what I saw as a good relationship ended. I have been searching for answers in my own mind. I know that closure can only really come from me, but that’s hard.

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