I suppose that’s the only way to think about it. And I guess he’s really not. Thanks for that reminder.

Yes. Very much so. I would never take him back because I could never trust someone who would treat me that way, but I want him to know that the way he ended it with a perfectly nice person was careless, insensitive and wrong. I deserved an actual conversation.

I am not sure. My gut just felt off and I wanted to reach out to him. An anxious feeling. I didn’t and I am not going to because I don’t think it would solve anything. I have been feeling fairly positive and then today. I just keep wondering if it was ever real.

Those are all solid things for me to work towards. Thank you. Any advice on how to get the loop of replaying the relationship out of my mind and stop wondering why he did this?

You are right. It’s just very sad and seemed unnecessary, but I know I can’t control it. Mail it back. Be done

I know it will reverse nothing honestly. He made up his mind without me or any of my input. He has not attempted to reach out. After initially showing upset and saying he was probably going to regret it, he turned cold the next day. Just said that the spark was gone and we needed to move on. That was the way a year and a half of what I saw as a good relationship ended. I have been searching for answers in my own mind. I know that closure can only really come from me, but that’s hard.