Barbs,

That’s great, and I’m sending happy thoughts and warmth your way. 🙂 Sometimes we naturally get sucked into “what ifs”… but those fantasies decrease our light, because they expend our precious strength and hope. Perhaps spending your tender hope on a free, strong, happy, and independent Barbs would be a better investment.

Maybe you could try packing up his things… it could be quite cathartic. Why leave him in your space? He doesn’t want to be there, and has proven that plenty of times already. Perhaps your foot on his butt as he’s leaving would put a little pep back in your step. Playing the “beggar barbs” is way less fun than “angel barbs”. But its your canvas, dear sister! 🙂

With warmth,
Matt

Hi Barbara,

I hope this finds you well and in a better place. I have been reading your thread. I am going through the same ordeal as we speak.
Excruciating pain inside. I love this man so much yet he can walked away. We don’t really have real problems. Like all couples, we bickered sometime.
Even I carry on with every day life, I feel so empty and broken inside. I am very fortunate to have great friends and the environment that I am in provide me
things I enjoyed everyday. My situation has been more than 3 weeks. I still cried,, but it does get better. Occasionally I get sucked in the wallow hole.

I pray and still hope he comes home.

Namaste

Bella