Dear all

A few months a posted this :https://tinybuddha.com/topic/im-the-one-with-toxic-behaviour/, about cheating my husband and how I felt about it.

Well, even though I can’t justify my cheating, there is a reason.

We are 14 years together. In the meantime, we are married and have a baby of 10 months.

The problem is this: he’s cold. He doesn’t show affection towards me. I’m not talking about sex, but things that are very important to me, like a stroke in my hair, a hug, a kiss,… In short, he lacks bodily warmth. Many times I’ve talked with him about it and everytime he says: “I’m like that”. End of discussion. I’ve tried to deal with it, but I can’t. I search for affection elsewhere, which is not good at all.

The root of this is with his father. He’s cold as well, and when I stayed at their home, the atmosphere was very tense. Nobody spoke. In my family, we have more warmth, we talk, we don’t hug all the time, but there is more openly affection.

I’ve minimalised this problem, thought it will get better, but it doesn’t. I just need someone who strokes my back and hair and he doesn’t do that. So, what am I supposed to do?

Thanks for reading.

Riris