Recently I have bumped into a friend at random places (shopping malls and football) I walked up to her on both occasions and started the conversation but it was strained on her behalf like she is embarrassed to talk to me in public and not introducing me to her friends she was with (I did introduce my friend) . I then saw her again out in the city and I waved to her and she could barely bring herself to wave and then looked at her friends (with a I don’t know her face)
What is the go with this? She is very fit and trendy and I the opposite. When are are on a one on one ( we work together and have a great time at work) she talks so nice and is very helpful and caring but around other people I feel like I need to disappear. Should I ask her if this is the fact or let it go? I feel really hurt but this behaviour and trying reconcile it in my mind. Advice please.
So you are saying she may value physical appearance, being fit and trendy- and she doesn’t want her friends to think she is friends with you, like you are not good enough for her?
A clue: were her friends fit looking and trendy?
Yes, you should talk to her and i hope she will answer you honestly, but more likely she will not. If she is rude enough to ignore you in public because you are not fit or trendy, then she is probably not the upstanding person who will be honest when you ask her …
maybe if you ask her a certain way…
I know the feeling, I believe, Trixie. I remember it and hated it. Post again if you’d like.
Anita, I did reach out an call her but no answer . No response is a response. And yes her friends are all fit and trendy. Mean girls. I would never do this and even invited her to coffee to chat before she goes away for leave and to my face yes, that will be great. But, when I invited her no response. I feel used and embarrassed but putting myself out there and offering the hand of friendship. 🙁
It is not a good feeling, feeling used and embarrassed. Tell her that you feel hurt by her behavior and that your efforts to reach out to her are over. Tell her specifically what she did that hurt you, where and when. From now on do not pay any attention to her and if she initiates talking to you, tell her your time is valuable, that you have no time to listen to her, and if she has something to tell you, she can write you a… letter.
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