There’s is always hope, friend. You just have to open your eyes and see it. Right now your eyes are closed, and you currently have a tunnelled vision. You are only looking at your problems and not what wonderful and beautiful things await you. In fact those wonderful and beautiful things are already with you. You. Your life is the greatest gift given to you. It is precious. That life is worth living. Even if things don’t feel good now. They will be. You must have faith. Have hope. Have love. Love yourself and love your life enough not to give up. That is where improvement begins. By loving yourself enough to want to change, make a difference and not give in.

You need to not look at life with a tunell vision. But in fact open your eyes to the beautiful things around. Life is beautiful. Nature is beautiful. People are beautiful. You are beautiful. It is never too late to change and become a better person and live your life now how you want it to be. Don’t dwell on the things that bring you down. Don’t dwell on the experiences that have made you this way. Don’t bury yourself in self pity. You have to come to realise that you are blessed. For you have been given life. Many people lose that even. You are here because you’re meant to be here. It is not time to give up now friend. The time now is to make a change. Change your perspective for the better. For yourself. Sometimes in life all you have is yourself. You need to learn to love yourself so you are happy with just that.

Life can be lonely, and sad. But it can be beyond beautiful. For there are always beautiful moments to experience. You can make them now by loving everything you have. By looking around and being appreciative. That’s something you need to not lose sight of EVER. Life is beautiful, and you were given life so you could experience every bit of it. You have so much life ahead of you. A beautiful life, but that’s all dependant upon how you approach this situation now. You have to pick yourself up out of this depression, and keep on moving. I’ve felt depressed before too, feeling that I would never feel love again. But guess what? I did. That was just my state of mind speaking – saying that I wouldn’t. But as soon as you change your perspective to a more positive outlook on life you will see that you will feel better again too.

Hope is not lost. It never is. There is always hope. You just have to believe. You have to see that you are blessed. You need to look at all the good things in your life, and not let the bad things affect you. You can control how you feel. You can change how you feel. The power lies within you always. You just have to regain your love for life. When something makes you feel bad, counteract it with something that makes you feel good. If there is something that you feel you are lacking, think of something good that you do have and appreciate the fact that you have that. Appreciate what you have. Look at all the good things in your life and ignore the bad. There ARE good things in your life. Such as you, your life, your job… I’m sure there is much more. You just have to open your eyes. You know what you also have? Other people who care about you. Me, and I’m sure countless others, perhaps even some you don’t realize that do. If I didn’t care about your wellbeing I wouldn’t have spent such time typing this response when I have my own work to do.

But I did because I believe there is always hope. The hope lies within you. You just have to reach it by being positive about yourself and your life. Be appreciative. Care about yourself enough not to give up. You be the one to love yourself. You need to love yourself before others can love you. You can’t rely on others to give you happiness. You have to find it within yourself. Be strong, my friend. Have faith in yourself and in life. It will get better, it always does. So long as you’re strong and you’re willing to make changes in your life. You have to achieve a more positive perspective on life for your own well being and for things to get better. I care, and so should you. I wish you the very best. I am here for you if you wish to speak further. Good luck. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Rahul,

You are definitely not alone in how you feel. There are many of us walking around with some sort of hurt, but a lot of people won’t show it. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I agree with the message Katie left you. You’ve definitely taken the first step of acknowledge where you are at in life, and now is the time to take care of yourself. Be your own bestfriend, your number one fan. Just imagine what you would tell your best friend. That is the message you should take with you.

People can give you all the advice in the world, but it is really up to you, to take what you want from it and make those choices and actions into transforming yourself and your life. It’s not going to change over night. So be patient with yourself. There will be good days and bad days, so be gentle with yourself. In the end, it really doesn’t matter what other people think, only what you think of yourself. Now is the time to let go of the beliefs and feelings that no longer work for you.

This time is going to be difficult, but with time it will get better. Just be open to the opportunities that arise, it may not take the form you want it, but just recognize and go for it. I promise it will get better. Face this head on, because pushing it back will only make it a lot fiercer the next time it comes around.

I truly hope you find messages that resonate with you and keep it with you for those hard times. You can do this. 🙂

Lucia

Rahul,

I’m sorry for your struggles, and hope that some inner warmth arises soon. I like the way you notice that the further inward you look, the darker it feels. That’s actually a great place to be! Consider that when you walk into your home, if it is cold inside you know what to do. You go to the thermostat and turn up the heat.

In the heart it is the same. There is coldness, so you looked for heat in her. You lied to protect that feeling of warmth. That’s fine! Its not skillful, but perfectly normal.

So, the task becomes “where is the thermostat of the heart?” How do we accept the cold and find out how to generate warmth? Others have asked that same question, and have found the answer! What we do is metta practice. Consider searching YouTube for “Ajahn Brahm Metta guided meditation” and follow his instructions. It may happen immediately, it may happen after 5 attempts, it may take 10. Get your butt in a chair or on a cushion, and keep at it. The warmth arises, and because it is within you, people laughing or the girl walking ahead of you will be of no consequence. Your heart will heal by itself, for itself.

With warmth,
Matt

Hi Rahul,

Understand we all share these disappointments and fears and confusions… you are not alone or weird or strange or unlovable

Here is a piece of one of the best movies I have watched in my lifetime **Please do watch 🙂 it is a very important movie

If you like the scene here is the starting url

You Can Heal Your Life: Louise Hay