August 1, 2020 at 3:48 pm #363490
Do you have a generalised anxiety too?
Thank you, I also hope so.August 1, 2020 at 6:24 pm #363494
I suffered from severe anxiety for most of my life, still do, but to a significantly lesser extent. I found out that a lot of healing is possible for me and I continue the process of healing, but perfect healing- I don’t think it’s possible. That’s why I wished you in my recent post more and more calm and less and less anxiety- because I don’t believe that healing completely from all that anxiety is possible. Some healing is better than none, though, and aiming at more and more healing, every day, is my way of life.
anitaAugust 2, 2020 at 9:58 am #363529
I’m glad things have improved for you. I agree, and that’s how I’ve come to view my own anxiety. I know it’ll never go away but hopefully it is becoming more managable. Things over the past few years have gotten easier, but that’s because I’ve not tried many new things, and I know when I do try new things it rears it’s ugly head. I need to stop shying away from it and put myself out there again if I want things to change but it’s hard sometimes isn’t it.August 2, 2020 at 11:02 am #363532
Thank you. Yes, it is hard sometimes. “when I do try new things (anxiety) rears its ugly head”- key is to try one new thing at a time, gently and slowly, with pauses so to calm oneself down before proceeding.
anitaAugust 3, 2020 at 10:01 am #363635
Yes. Thank you.
I don’t know how to move forward, anita.
Actually, typing that, I suppose I do. I could look at a course to do from home, until covid has passed. Or something similar.August 3, 2020 at 10:31 am #363638
You are welcome. Thing is you don’t have to move forward. Moving forward, that is, taking on the slow, gradual, step by step, day by day process of healing from a lifetime of anxiety is far from being easy. It takes consistent effort over a long, long time.
At one point, I remember giving up, figuring it will be easier to .. just exist, as is, but I was wrong: I learned that it is impossible to stay as-is, in one place, that if we people don’t move forward- we move backward. Not by choice, it’s just the nature of human life: we either move forward or we move backward. So better make our lives better than passively allow our lives to get worse.
August 9, 2020 at 8:28 am #364223
- This reply was modified 2 months, 3 weeks ago by anita.
‘Moving forward’ just feels a bit difficult at the moment. Over the past few years, my moving forward has equalled going outside and trying to take part in something social. That’s not really an option right now. I need to remember this stuckness is only temporary, but then, I keep reading bad things about covid and hearing “another lockdown is on it’s way”, and “this is what life will be like for the forseeable future”, and it’s like.. well I will be stuck like this for a while then.
On a plus side, I did some drawing yesterday. It was really enjoyable. I read somewhere a way to get in touch with yourself is to do things you liked as a child/teen. Do you think that’s true? I can see how it could be. It very much worked though, I really enjoyed drawing. I think I’ll treat myself to some new paint brushes. 🙂August 9, 2020 at 8:45 am #364227
Yes, this pandemic stuckness is long term, “for the foreseeable future”. “to get in touch with yourself is to do things you liked as a child/teen. Do you think that’s true?”- yes I do. I hope you do treat yourself to n ew paint brushes and enjoy more drawing!
anitaAugust 15, 2020 at 6:26 am #364805patricaParticipant
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The human brain is the most complex biological tool that exists, the result of millions of years of evolution. This complexity endows us with wonderful functions, very characteristic of our species, such as language, culture, art or science. But it is also a double-edged sword that, when it fails, causes pathologies that manifest themselves in alterations in our behavior. Some disrupt us at a motor level (Parkinson’s disease, cerebellar ataxias), others at a cognitive level (autism, dementias) and others at an emotional level (anxiety, depression).
Many people suffer from depression – or major depressive disorder (MDD) – at some point in their lives. It is a serious mental illness characterized by persistent low mood and sadness, limited self-esteem, and feelings of guilt. In addition to loss of interest and pleasure in habitual activities, sleep and eating disorders, etc. In the most severe cases, this picture is accompanied by suicidal ideation and suicide attempts. you can check out this article for motivation, https://superwellnessblog.net/science-says-about-an-antidote-to-pain-and-negativity/August 17, 2020 at 1:21 pm #364962
Thanks very much patrica, I’ll take a look. 🙂August 20, 2020 at 4:45 pm #365220
I don’t know what to do, I’m so stressed, so I’m going to ramble here and think aloud
My family were meant to be going away on a walking holiday Saturday morning. My mum has been on and off about the trip because a) she threatened she wouldn’t be going because she wanted some space from my dad and aunt, and b) she has a lot ailments which make traveling and walking hard. This seems to have gotten worse over the past 2 years.
Yesterday she texts me to say she’s not going as she sprained her leg in her sleep(?). Today I ask dad what’s going on, and he says he is going anyway, it isn’t a problem if I don’t go, but he asks that I stay at home with mum for a few days because he doesn’t know where her mind is at the moment. I feel like I cannot win either way. I feel terrible my dad going on holiday without his immediate family (his sister-in-law and nephew will be there, but we won’t). I keep getting images in my head of him being alone. I feel we as a family have done nothing but let him down, always.
I want to rise up and try and be a better daughter and go with him, but the thought of going makes me incredibly anxious:
– Being away from home is a struggle, travelling makes me sick, and last time I got on a plane I had a serious panic attack and promised myself I’d never go on a plane again, I was convinced we’d die.. I’m sort of positive the plane will explode.. but then i feel bad if I didn’t go because dad would die alone on it.. which is really silly and panicky but my brain??????
– I feel my aunt and cousin don’t particularly like me. I am the black sheep on the family, the one who would get into trouble, the ‘over reactor’, or one who would openly disagree with people. (I used to stand up for my beliefs, and still do to a degree, and they usually conflict with the rest of my family.) I feel like they look down on me and I don’t know how much of that is imaginary.
– I’m just not very good company, holidays mean going out for meals which makes me anxious, and family members getting drunk, which makes me uncomfortable to be around
– I know mum is responsible for herself and I’d be enabling her by staying home, but I keep getting images of her in my head where she’s drunk and hurt and .. what if she overdoses and no-one is there?? It doesn’t seem like a safe time right now given she only went to A&E a few days ago?? She is always injuring herself when she’s drunk
– Mum would be left alone with my brother who is a bully to her, verbally abusive, has thrown things at her and been threatening
– On the other hand if I stay with mum, I could give my brother a break from ‘looking after’ her since I will be the one to be keeping an eye on things, and also I could spend some quality time with them both which I’ve not done lately
– I’m letting down my dad yet again by not going
It’s a no win situation and I don’t know what to do, but also I feel terrible for even complaining because I’m blessed that I have a family, and we have an opportunity to go awayAugust 20, 2020 at 5:51 pm #365224
“I feel terrible my dad going on holiday without his immediate family”, immediate family include your mother and your brother who “.is a bully to (your mother), verbally abusive, has thrown things at her and been threatening”- I am guessing your father is relieved to go on a holiday without the two parties at war (mother and brother). If I am correct, then you can feel happy for your father, instead of feeling terrible. What do you think?
Regarding you going on a plane and on the holiday- not a good idea, being how much you suffered in these circumstances before.
Did I just made sense, to you?
anitaAugust 21, 2020 at 6:11 am #365244
Thank you for your reply. That does make sense, but.. I thought pushing through anxiety was the goal? I feel like by not going I would be conceding. It will only make it harder to travel in the future; something I’d like to do.
My dad often argues with mum aswell, so having some space for a week would do both of them good I imagine.August 21, 2020 at 6:40 am #365246
You are welcome. “I thought pushing through anxiety was the goal?- you are anxious about flying and the company of your parents/ family stresses you. If you are on a plane, it is scary enough, so you will need someone with you on the plane who has a calming affect on you (or at the least, you need not have people with you on the plane who stress you).