July 25, 2015 at 3:13 am #80416
I am new to Tiny Buddha and this is my first post!
The question that always puzzles me is that sometimes in our life we become weak in making appropriate decisions and it becomes difficult to choose what’s right and what’s wrong for us. And this is mainly due to the reason that we are emotional about something. In this condition, tears and spinning head is very common.
So, what do you think about this?July 25, 2015 at 3:23 am #80417BlueButterflyParticipant
Welcome to Tiny Buddha! To your question, I think you’re right. Emotions and feelings are the main thing we humans we feel about. It’s not only us, also that neighbour’s cat feels things. Emotions play a great role in our life. They say never let your emotions control you, well if it’s true maybe emotions make us weak, if they’re controlling us, they can make us feel weak easily. Emotions are sometimes both good and bad to us. It’s us who has to make a correct choice of these emotions.
Tiny Buddha is really a great website. I hope you’ll enjoy 🙂July 25, 2015 at 7:16 am #80420anitaParticipant
My answer: Emotions make us weak if they are too intense- then we need to get calm (lower intensity) before making decisions. Emotions make us week if we try to push them down and away from our awareness, that is if we try to not feel them. Emotions make us weak if we automatically react to them in destructive ways.
On the other hand, emotions make us strong if we regulate their intensity, keep them in awareness long enough to learn the message in each emotion. Without learning the valid messages emotions carry with them, we have no way of knowing, really knowing, what to choose, how to live our lives.
anitaJuly 25, 2015 at 4:11 pm #80429
You are indeed correct in saying that Emotions make us weak when they’re controlling us. Thanks a lot for your response.July 25, 2015 at 4:20 pm #80430
Thanks for speaking about when emotions make us weak and when they make us strong. We really need to be calm before making decisions. As the decisions taken in the state of intense emotions may be harmful. Decisions in the life must not be taken in the state great anxiety, depression or even when we are too happy as it may result into a wrong decision and further something devastating happening in future because of the wrong decision.July 28, 2015 at 4:24 pm #80676Bethany RosselitParticipant
Emotions don’t make us weak, if we understand what they are. Emotions are caused by THOUGHTS, and thoughts are indications of our current understanding and perceptions. So if we experience unpleasant emotions, we should take a look at the thoughts behind them. Nearly all thoughts that don’t feel good are based on fear. And fear-based thoughts can be redefined. Here is an article that explains it a bit better: http://www.onlinetherapyandcoaching.org/blog/2015/7/8/overcome-your-fear-by-redefining-your-assumptions .
BethanyJuly 29, 2015 at 5:22 pm #80775
Thanks a lot Bethany! You lifted me up!