February 12, 2022 at 7:36 pm #392680GregParticipant
Does anyone have advice in how to let go of regret? It keeps haunting me every time i have a free time. It’s regarding a decision i made 4 years ago… at that time i thought it was the right choice for me… but turns out it wasnt….
I choose the wrong bachelor degree, at that time im confused on whether choosing management or economics… but in the end i choose management because i’m afraid that i might fail a module if i choose economics…
I shouldve choose economics because most who have that degree are labelled as smart students and management students are labelled as “dumb”…
I shouldve took the risk and dont care if i end up failing.. as in the end i would be labelled as smart… i really regret it…
im currently working, so both degrees doesnt affect my job… but still the regret keeps haunting meFebruary 13, 2022 at 7:52 am #392687TommyParticipant
The more one brings thoughts of regret to mind the more they take hold in one’s consciousness. Once rooted they take on a life of their own. I do not know how to rid one of regrets. Just that one must work on the present and be ever mindful of the present. Then as time passes, regret loses it grip and slips away. It is much like getting over a loved one who has broken up with you. One never forgets. But, with time, it becomes easier to move on.January 8, 2023 at 8:53 am #413443anitaParticipant
Dear Greg aka Felix aka Eric:
I am bringing this thread (and other threads under this account) to the front so to study it and be better able to offer you something helpful. I will return to this thread later.
anitaJanuary 8, 2023 at 12:37 pm #413462anitaParticipant
Dear Greg aka Felix aka Eric:
I was going to study your threads yet again, and I started.. but then I figured that what’s important is not what more I can learn about you, but what more you can learn about you.
The many hundreds of posts that you submitted and the many hundreds of replies that you received (all here on record, currently accessible on the 1st page of topics) are a very valuable opportunity for you to learn about this very interesting, fascinating, valuable human being I know: you!
You can learn about how you’ve been thinking over time, what actions you chose to take; what progress you have made so far, and what more progress you would like to make in the future.
If you choose this path of learning more about you, using your threads as a resource, I will be excited for you and hope that you get a good return on your investment of time and work!
anitaJanuary 20, 2023 at 11:38 am #414168RobParticipant
Multiple ways to let go of regret I know of that have been useful at different stages of my life. I have no idea how they would play out for you:
- Ask yourself was there anyway to predict the future that happened at the time? If not (do you have a crystal ball?), then why regret?
- Label that nagging voice inside of you with a personality. Call him “Perfect Pete” or something, he always thinks you should get everything right, be super brave, well, is that realistic? Giving it a silly name helps.
- Accept you don’t write life, life writes you.