Hi all, i need some advice for my 1.5 years relationship. Some background about us, he is a socially awkward person, very workaholic, he spent 12-14 hrs per day working even sometimes on the weekend. That being said, we don’t have much time together since he is always occupied with his work. We lived together over the past 10 months, after dating for a year. I want to experience whether or not I can handle his schedule for the rest of my life, so I give it a try to live together. We have a similar interest in design, that’s why I still can have conversation about his work. However sometimes I can’t connect with him if I want to share something emotional. I told him that he is lack of emotional connection even with himself. We are each other’s first real relationship, so he doesn’t know how to do this emotional thing with me, because he never done it before. Ever since we move in together everything starts to fall apart. it’s hard to keep up with him, I feel like I keep chasing him to beg for his attention. He gives me a physical love (like i always ask for cuddle time and he will give 10-15mins for me, he likes to briefly hug me when i’m cooking, etc) I told him, I need verbal love which he is most struggling with. I showed my love to him in every possible way I can, I’m very service minded and very affectionate (like little puppy he said) which he likes very much. I asked him couple times, does he needs more from me? and he always said, no, he enjoyed my act of love very much. The relationship gets rocky after we move in together, because even though we live together, I feel so far away from him. he always occupied, busy with work and I just wait for him to come home so I can spend some time with him before we go to sleep. I feel he is very self-centered, he only thinks about his work, career, gym, and that’s it. He is a good guy, yet he doesn’t know how to love, and connect emotionally with other people. He could be sweet and romantic from time to time, but it’s incomparable to the amount of our fights and all the disappointment I keep having. I keep telling him I want to give up in this relationship because I’m exhausted to keep begging and chasing. But he doesn’t want to let me go. He keep saying he will get better at this. and yes, he did.. a little bit.. sometimes he did  well for 1-2 weeks after the fight, I feel so loved by him. But then when he get back to his normal routine with his work, it’s all the same again. Now we are going through long distance due to my work visa. So i’m not going back unless we got married. I doubt that this is the guys for me, but every time we have fight he always try to make it better and it makes me rethink everything again and try to fight for the relationship again. but how long do I need to keep doing this? Am I being too selfish for wanting more? I need your honest opinion here.