Hey everyone,

There is a person whom I have been close to for about four years now, and over the past few weeks, certain aspects of our friendship that have been swept under the carpet for too long have been arising. In the beginning of the relationship I was going through a hard time and she was there for me in my darkest hours, for this I am forever grateful, but since I discovered my self worth and began learning to love myself and my life through my own individual journey I have come to realize how draining she is to me as a person.

I now know how dependent on me she has become and it is quite unhealthy. It has often discomforted me these past few years the way she has been a “leech” to my personality, often adopting numerous aspects of who I am and trying to make them her own, in an attempt to achieve what I have in terms of recovering from depression, self-worth, self-love, etc. I tried explaining that each individual will find their own way about things and that she must look inward first and should not be so dependent on me for her happiness, peace of mind, and almost everything else. When given advice she complains and gives blunt remarks on how she canʻt figure anything out or her life sucks, even though she has not tried to change it. She often has a negative outlook on life – that I believe stems from her lack of self-appreciation and unwillingness to be her authentic self – and will actively express it. Itʻs been very frustrating for me having to be emotional and mentally drained by her each day as we share nearly everyday class together as well as morning and afternoon bus rides.

At this point I would love to hear any advice anyone is willing to offer, thanks for reading!
Love and light xx

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