May 11, 2020 at 10:43 pm #354560AnonymousInactive
This might be one of the few posts that’ll make you smile, or even develop more hope.
This is my experience of growing up, learning from the experiences.
2 years back, I was this one struggling 17 year old, whose parents are really strict and legit had to do everything only as they wanted/wished. My parents were the last 2 people on earth who would understand me. My parents were really abusive, and was I was not allowed to follow the basic interests I had. From my dressing sense to music taste, everything I wished for, I couldn’t do/follow as I wished. I was not allowed to be on social media. I was not allowed to even open up.
Similarly, I had a few ‘best friends’ who I did not realise that they were toxic. I let one of my friend dictate my life at school and did not realise that she was sexually abusing me. On top of this, I was raped by another so called friend for a long time and was blackmailed. With no one on my side, I felt devastated. Time flew, I had this in mind all the while and expressed some of my thoughts in these forums. You can call this an update about my life.
I looked back at my forums today and I realised how well life has progressed positively. I first cried, and then felt grateful. Because, even till date few things in my life hasn’t changed. My abusive parents haven’t changed. Their parenting haven’t changed. Their gender discriminating parenting, their ego, almost nothing has changed. So ha my hope. I made sure I never let go of my hope.
A few things did change though,
All my toxic friends grew apart after everyone graduated from school, I’m still getting over the fact that I was raped and abused, but I’ve made a whole lot improvement. And, the best part of all? I got to study my favourite subject: Linguistics at my college.
What caused the change, you ask?
Just 2 things.
I never lost hope in myself or the situations that I had to go through. Things haven’t become the best of what I wanted to happen, but I’m a happier person now, I’m more lively, I’m living more at the moment, I have progressed positively in life, I almost got rid of all the toxic people in my life, I never lost hope in myself.
To anyone who is going through a hard time, please remember, you are more than enough and please keep your hopes on forever, changes will come, they are gonna make your life better, you are gonna feel better, things will become better, please hang on, never let go of your hope and most importantly time will heal you.
You are going to become better, hang on, the best is yet to come. You are gonna keep smiling once it happens!May 12, 2020 at 6:30 am #354598anitaParticipant
Welcome back, and thank you for posting this very positive update and offering others encouragement.
Here is some of what I like the most about your post: “I looked back at my forums today and I realized how well life has progressed positively. I first cried, and then felt grateful.. I’ve made a whole lot improvement.. I got to study my favorite subject: Linguistics at my college.. I’m a happier person now, I’m more lively, I’m living at the moment, I have progressed positively in life, I almost got rid of all the toxic people in my life, I never lost hope in myself”.
Keep that hope, vaishu and continue to progress.
anitaMay 21, 2020 at 1:12 am #356234RicardoParticipant
In this case, I usually use inspiration quotes – If you’re comparing the badness of two words and you won’t even say one of them [the n-word], that’s the worse word. JOHN MULANEY