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  • March 2, 2015 at 6:37 pm #73452
    Anonymous
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    I am 30 years old with a very important job position that is very demanding. It requires me to travel constantly, I love it and it pays me well but as you all know there are hurdles at times to overcome. I love my family and I put in a lot of effort more than others and so it seems I am the backbone of them all and the leader/the one they look up to.

    Just recently I found out that my sister in law and brother in NJ are flying out to Arizona this week to celebrate my 2 nieces who turned 1 years old birthday on Sunday, which is the day I had already planned to arrive home but my airline ticket had me scheduled in at 6:48pm and the big 1st birthday party starts at my moms house at 5pm ( of course my luck this week) I’m not very happy at the fact that I wasn’t given at least a few weeks notice to prepare for this. I am now going to have to possibly pay a 200.00 fee to change my flight times, so that I arrive a few hours early to prepare for this huge birthday party. I love my nieces and newborn nephew and all but I just know I am going to be completely exhausted when I arrive back home on Sunday.

    In addition, I am really far away from home right now to add to all of this. 4 days after I arrive home on Sunday I have to head to Europe for awhile. Traveling for work has gotten me so exhausted, I am just trying to find the strength to pull all this off. I just wish my family we be a little more considerate of my work schedule to at least give me some notice because I’m not only frustrated that I wasn’t given enough notice but now I’m going to have to pay a lot of money just to change my flight times. Hence the fact I have to layover before arrive back home this coming Sunday.

    Can you tell I’m stressed out? I know it s obvious I am. This is just all so much right now to be finding out about a dual 1st birthday party with only a 1 week notice. I just
    Hope I have the energy to make it to Europe and make sure I don’t look obviously exhausted this coming Sunday. Any ideas, suggestions or comments welcomed.

    March 3, 2015 at 3:19 am #73458
    Will
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    Does your family know you had to throw around your entire flight schedule to be at a baby birthday party?

    Does your family appreciate the fact that you actually went and did that? Because it strikes me you really didn’t have to. With one week’s notice, you could have said, “Aw, I wish I’d known! I’m going to be in Europe. Let me know earlier next time and I’ll definitely be there.”

    Maybe (that’s a real maybe) part of your being stressed stems from an idea you have about how you must be at get togethers, and you must overcome all the hurdles, and you must put in the effort because who else is going to and you are this backbone figure. I mean, it could be that’s really the case and your family would fall apart if you relaxed even a little, but I invite you to consider the possibilities.

    Damn, that sounded sarcastic. I don’t mean to be sarcastic. Some families do revolve around a backbone figure, and I don’t know if that’s yours. It could also be that it’s just really important to you to be at that party, in which case all you need to do is talk to your family about giving notice for big get togethers. Because you almost didn’t make it.

    Good luck.

    March 3, 2015 at 4:07 am #73460
    Inky
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    Hi ElleTinker700,

    I am a bad mom for saying this, but… once you have kids, doing stuff like birthday parties is automatic and no big deal. There’s also the kids’ plays, sports games, recitals, and graduations. Frankly, your brother (being a guy) won’t care and will totally understand that work schedules trump birthday parties, plays, games, recitals and even graduations. And your sister in law will probably be relieved that there’s one less person to take care of. That’s how I feel, anyway, when my own sister catches wind about a recital and invites The World. LOL. I end up taking care of several grandparents and the token lost or late relative and almost miss my own kid perform!!

    Also, you seem to be putting a lot of self importance on yourself. That if you’re not there everyone will be emotionally devastated. Conversely, they think your job is cute and no big deal and really don’t get it.

    It’ll All Be OK,

    Inky

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    March 5, 2015 at 8:55 am #73578
    Anonymous
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    You are really emotionally exhausted! You should rest!

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