As it is V day today; my ex (since two weeks) lesbian partner was calling me in midnight. I didn’t pick the call. But somewhere I feel guilty for not picking her call, and for having blocked her. Should I be feeling this? Or should I get over with this guilt. Why do I feel I need to be available everytime my ex contacts me. And when she realises that it’s not going to work, she manipulates me and plays mind games also disrespecting me like ‘for what you wanna talk? Are you still looking for a psychologist’. This was when I tried to talk to her that I don’t have the lesbian thing in me, so it would be better for us to part ways. But she already understands it before I say it.

When she was in her home country with support of friends who knows about her life; she would give bashful reply. Now that she’s back to my country, she would continue to pursue me showing that I’m the only one she always wanted to have. On the other hand, I have known that she was dating other girls while she was with me.

One side, my heart says stop letting people to manipulate you, on the other hand, I feel guilty as if she did everything for me and I’m not available for her now.

My question – Is it correct to not reply her? Should I throw the guilt? What if she approaches me at home or office; should I behave as if nothing is wrong or be upfront and say it’s not going to work(she also knows this somewhere).

Problem- when I be upfront and tell her the fact that it’s not going to work; she starts manipulating ‘can we be friends?’ ‘I understand that you cannot be in the relation but I would request to have your friendship’. She would start caring for me like no one has ever cared! Send many expensive gifts; and there I go feeling obligated to accept, reciprocate, etc.!!!!!

Vicious cycle! How to end it?