I moved across the United States for a man who I thought I loved. We met in college and had been dating for two years. Immediately two weeks after graduation; we moved to a new state for his new job. I left behind all familiarity, family, and friends. I found a job in my field, but it always seemed to be about him. He became very ill with Crohn’s Disease. I was his care taker. Our love life dwindled. We argued. I was unhappy; I felt as though I was always put second. This bothered me because I always put him before myself. After almost a year of living together, he kicked me out of our apartment. Right now I am living with a friend from work. I feel used, hurt and alone.

I am having a very hard time moving on. I am continuing living in this foreign state and working hard at my job. He has left to go back home to get healthy. He plans on returning in May. Part of me wants to be with him and the other part of me wants to move on so badly. I have cried over and over. My heart aches with pain. I feel lost and confused. My family looks down upon me for moving for someone who they felt never loved me. I have tried to make new friends, which has helped.

He hasn’t contacted me at all. His parents are very close with me and are worried about me being out here alone. I just don’t understand how someone can be so selfish and not even care how I am doing. After all I moved to a different state for him, and he is yet the one who is back home with loved ones. How is this fair? Advice appreciated.