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  • July 18, 2015 at 10:58 am #80046
    David
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    Just recently, I feel like everything has collapsed around me and I’m having a hard time finding my way out. Throughout this year, I’ve lost most of my friends, whether it be through them moving away, finding new people to be with, or just giving up on me, I’ve lost touch with most of the people that I was ever close to. And it’s painful. I’ve always suffered from social anxiety and have a difficult time talking or meeting new people because I’ve always been afraid. The most difficult blow I’ve received this year is that I finally came forward and told the girl that I love that I liked her to which she said that I was the sweetest person she knows but that she doesn’t feel anything for anyone right now. I’ve loved her for over a year and we talk every day. And I’m still reeling from that pain and I miss her. I’ve never felt more sure about anyone in my life. I’m 18 but I feel like I have nothing left in me. I’ve been fighting against my anxiety/depression for years and there are occasional moments where I feel okay, but it seems like it disappears so fast and leaves me with nothing. It’s summer and I really have no one else to talk to. I also have just started a new job, and while it’s okay, the work is draining and I just don’t feel like I have the motivation to continue. Is there anything I can do to ease this loneliness and find some meaning in life? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

    July 18, 2015 at 1:10 pm #80049
    Gabby
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    Hey there!
    I’ve been feeling similarly lately, as a lot is changing in my life as well. It’s really hard to let things go, especially when we don’t feel like we’re ready to or that we liked the way things were, but that’s ultimately the only way we can feel peace. Whenever I feel sad about something in my life, I try to accept the feeling and don’t hope it goes away, simply exist within the feeling. In addition to that, ask yourself if the thoughts you’re having with your feelings are helping you, if not, exhale them and let them go. Then when my thoughts roll in, I observe them and let them pass; this is the only way to keep the negative ones from gaining power.

    It’s really really hard, I totally get it. Some days you’ll feel better and somedays you’ll feel worse, but eventually the ebbs and flows will get smaller and things will start to regulate. Focus on your relationship with yourself and being your own company for a while. There is so much power in self-love and self-reliance.

    Plus, from what I’ve been reading, the earth’s energy is out of wack right now because of the new moon. Energies are high and lots of people are feeling it, especially the sensitive ones.
    You’re not alone! Things will get better!

    July 19, 2015 at 7:23 am #80062
    Saiisha
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    So sorry to hear you’re feeling despondent. And why do bad things always seem to happen in 3’s? But I’ve noticed that good things come in threes too, so can’t complain 🙂

    A couple of things that have helped me in the past when I felt melancholy about everything going against the grain:
    1. Figure out what brings you joy and go after it.
    If you find joy in reading or laughing, make time to read or watch funny videos. Just because you’re feeling despondent, don’t let go of the things that make you smile. These are the times you need to do more of those things that bring you joy!
    2. Focus on someone else
    Do one act of random kindness each day, with no expectation of returns – maybe buy a coffee for someone you see on the street with a sign that they’re hungry; or call a friend who’s going through their own tough times; or help an old woman with her garden. It doesn’t matter what you do, but when you do something for someone else, you lessen the focus on yourself and your problems, and in no time at all, you realize they’re gone or that you don’t worry about them any longer.

    I realize these are not solutions to your problems, but I promise you, your problems will feel lighter as you practice these, and you’ll find more meaning in your life. They may even lead to your true purpose.

    Namaste, Saiisha

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